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My goal in life is to provide guidance to those in search of something better. You know what I mean, you are living and breathing but not LIVING and BREATHING a life with purpose. The life you dreamed of until events blocked your progress or someone told you it wasn’t possible. I know first hand what that is like because my early days were filled with blockages. It was easy for me to blame my parents, siblings, friends, teachers, coworkers, employers, ex-husbands and anyone else that I came into contact with. What was missing was a self-assessment of my own actions, behaviors, and mainly my own thoughts that got in the way.
Luckily for me some teachers came along, each adding to my light through their guidance. It wasn’t always welcome, sometimes considered harsh at the time but after percolating within me for a while I realized they were the best teachers. There have been plenty of AHA moments along the way. Today I can truly say that I am very happy within myself no matter what is occurring, no matter who is around me, and no matter where I am. Happiness comes from within starting with your thoughts and emotions.
While working in the field of child welfare it was reaffirmed that no one can change another person unless that person is open and wants guidance. Family Court orders can’t force or help people change. Maybe short term but long term it never seemed to happen and they would end up back in the system.
Sometimes we want guidance however we are not willing or able to put in the time and effort to reap the benefits. The guidance may come at a time when we aren’t ready but, like myself, you may store the information for a later time when ready. Many times it can be those we love who block our shift in direction because when we change the people in our life will be forced to change as well. They may make derogatory remarks to diminish our light, they may ignore or avoid us and not provide support or encouragement. Any transformation within our own lives has a direct impact on those around us because our relationships change, we may no longer participate in the same activities or have time to devote to them as in the past. If we change our diets, when we attend events or have people over our food choices are different and we may introduce them to new foods, recipes. If we drank alcohol in the past and decide to stop then others may become offended when we no longer get high with them. So as you can see, small changes in our own behavior can have an impact on our relationships with others.
Let me share a bit of my own shifts along life’s path. When I married at age 17, I was completing my senior year of high school. Three months later I gave birth to my son. My relationship with my parents changed because I was their youngest child. They had not envisioned me pregnant and married in high school and were quite embarrassed. At 19, my husband and I purchased his deceased grandfather’s home. By the time I was 20, I had two small children, two dogs, a pool, large sandbox, and a husband that was never home. His dream was to be a mechanic. Mine was for him to be home on weekends with me and the children. By 23, I was separated and caring for two small children while working on a dish machine in a paper factory making hot dog trays. I didn’t have a car so walked to the babysitter, work and the grocery store. I was isolated from my family because they didn’t support me through those early years of the divorce. One day the dish machine started while my hand was inside the dish press. It was a painful experience which provided an awakening moment. I decided I wanted more in life. There had to be something better.
I registered for night school classes at the local high school. After a year of taking classes in photography, typing, and short hand (short hand was being phased out) I decided to try taking classes at the local Community College. This is when the next shift occurred. I was successful rising from dish machine operator to customer service to outside sales representative with the first company, leaving after nine years. I joined the NYS Army National Guard at age 32. During my ten years service, I completed my Associates, Bachelor, and Masters Degrees. There were times during these years that family shut me off or told me to quit college and go on welfare. My children and I had times when we lived on the bare minimum but always had time for playing games, walking in nature, and sharing in our stories. I can’t say it was always easy but well worth the time and effort. It was during this period of time that being in nature provided a source of inspiration and reenergized me.
I think we have shifts in our life and sometimes we need to look back and see when they occurred and why. There were many shifts in direction over the years and there were backslides as well. In the past I have had interactions with many people and experiences that opened my horizon and provided guidance. I have hired my own life coach to guide me during times of transition in my life and spent a year working with an art therapist. It can take a year for the brain to make the necessary changes and for us to develop new lasting behaviors. It was a beautiful time of growth and insight.
We all have ebbs and flows in our lives, just as a waterfall runs fast in the spring and slower in the summer only to freeze in the fall. What I would love to do is assist you in maintaining the same mindfulness and peace whether you are in an ebb or flow stage. We have a choice in what we think and feel, my desire is to guide you through your shift and help you remain focused on the goal during times of flow and those difficult times so you remain on track. It is in times of change that we learn, grow and transition. Better to be proactive in life rather than reactive. The dragonfly reminds us – life is about change, flexibility, and enjoying life.
Some of my Life Coach clients include PhD candidates, two were battling cancer, a couple trying to reach their ideal weight and/or physical health, some facing career changes and major life events such as empty nest and divorce. I have close to twenty years experience in the field of Child Welfare interviewing children and their families helping to guide them through their challenges. Ten years experience training caseworkers in large, small and individual settings guiding them in how to be more empathetic and to release judgments. I have discovered whether working with youth, parents, caseworkers, supervisors, administrators there is one thing most people have in common, they are searching for a purpose in life, for meaning and self-love. Some have succeeded and others need assistance getting back on track. Some were on track and somehow took a turn down a path that didn’t seem to lead to their goal. That’s what I am here to assist you with, finding and remaining on a path that will lead you to success, abundance, health and peace in your life. Sometimes that path may not appear to be the right path but as you continue along you may realize it is. So don’t jump off track just yet, let’s take a look at what is going well and then just tweak some of your actions, behaviors, thoughts to allow you to learn the lesson at hand and move on a little faster.
I am a Certified Life Coach (Quantum Success Coaching Academy), a Therapeutic Touch practitioner, a Graduate Instructor of Dale Carnegie Course, a doTerra Wellness Advocate, facilitate meditations, essential oil roller ball classes, along with wind chime and vision board classes.
I look forward to guiding you as you awaken your inner self and find your way on your creative journey to an awesome, loving, abundant, adventure filled life.
Love and Light,