Spirit of Dragonflies

Guide to Awakening Your Inner Self – Begin Your Creative Journey Today

Meet Sandy

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Welcome! I am glad that you could stop in and check out my site.

My goal in life is to provide guidance to those in search of something better. You know what I mean, you are living and breathing but not LIVING and BREATHING a life with purpose. The life you dreamed of until events blocked your progress or someone told you it wasn’t possible. I know first hand what that is like because my early days were filled with blockages. It was easy for me to blame my parents, siblings, friends, teachers, coworkers, employers, ex-husbands and anyone else that I came into contact with. What was missing was a self-assessment of my own actions, behaviors, and mainly my own thoughts that got in the way.

Luckily for me some teachers came along, each adding to my light through their guidance. It wasn’t always welcome,  sometimes considered harsh at the time but after percolating within me for a while I realized they were the best teachers. There have been plenty of AHA moments along the way. Today I can truly say that I am very happy within myself no matter what is occurring, no matter who is around me, and no matter where I am. Happiness comes from within starting with your thoughts and emotions.

While working in the field of child welfare it was reaffirmed that no one can change another person unless that person is open and wants guidance. Family Court orders can’t force or help people change. Maybe short term but long term it never seemed to happen and they would end up back in the system.

Sometimes we want guidance however we are not willing or able to put in the time and effort to reap the benefits. The guidance may come at a time when we aren’t ready but, like myself, you may store the information for a later time when ready. Many times it can be those we love who block our shift in direction because when we change the people in our life will be forced to change as well. They may make derogatory remarks to diminish our light, they may ignore or avoid us and not provide support or encouragement. Any transformation within our own lives has a direct impact on those around us because our relationships change, we may no longer participate in the same activities or have time to devote to them as in the past. If we change our diets, when we attend events or have people over our food choices are different and we may introduce them to new foods, recipes. If we drank alcohol in the past and decide to stop then others may become offended when we no longer get high with them. So as you can see, small changes in our own behavior can have an impact on our relationships with others.

Let me share a bit of my own shifts along life’s path. When I married at age 17, I was completing my senior year of high school. Three months later I gave birth to my son. My relationship with my parents changed because I was their youngest child. They had not envisioned me pregnant and married in high school and were quite embarrassed. At 19, my husband and I purchased his deceased grandfather’s home. By the time I was 20, I had two small children, two dogs, a pool, large sandbox, and a husband that was never home. His dream was to be a mechanic. Mine was for him to be home on weekends with me and the children. By 23, I was separated and caring for two small children while working on a dish machine in a paper factory making hot dog trays. I didn’t have a car so walked to the babysitter, work and the grocery store. I was isolated from my family because they didn’t support me through those early years of the divorce. One day the dish machine started while my hand was inside the dish press. It was a painful experience which provided an awakening moment. I decided I wanted more in life. There had to be something better.

I registered for night school classes at the local high school. After a year of taking classes in photography, typing, and short hand (short hand was being phased out) I decided to try taking classes at the local Community College. This is when the next shift occurred.  I was successful rising from dish machine operator to customer service to outside sales representative with the first company, leaving after nine years. I joined the NYS Army National Guard at age 32. During my ten years service, I completed my Associates, Bachelor, and Masters Degrees. There were times during these years that family shut me off or told me to quit college and go on welfare. My children and I had times when we lived on the bare minimum but always had time for playing games, walking in nature, and sharing in our stories. I can’t say it was always easy but well worth the time and effort. It was during this period of time that being in nature provided a source of inspiration and reenergized me.

I think we have shifts in our life and sometimes we need to look back and see when they occurred and why. There were many shifts in direction over the years and there were backslides as well. In the past I have had interactions with many people and experiences that opened my horizon and provided guidance. I have hired my own life coach to guide me during times of transition in my life and spent a year working with an art therapist. It can take a year for the brain to make the necessary changes and for us to develop new lasting behaviors. It was a beautiful time of growth and insight.

We all have ebbs and flows in our lives, just as a waterfall runs fast in the spring and slower in the summer only to freeze in the fall. What I would love to do is assist you in maintaining the same mindfulness and peace whether you are in an ebb or flow stage. We have a choice in what we think and feel, my desire is to guide you through your shift and help you remain focused on the goal during the difficult times so you remain on track.

Some of my Life Coach clients include PhD candidates, two were battling cancer, a couple trying to reach their ideal weight and/or physical health, some facing career changes and major life events such as empty nest and divorce. I have close to twenty years experience in the field of Child Welfare interviewing children and their families helping to guide them through their challenges. Ten years experience training caseworkers in large, small and individual settings guiding them in how to be more empathetic and to release judgments. I have discovered whether working with youth, parents, caseworkers, supervisors, administrators there is one thing most people have in common, they are searching for a purpose in life, for meaning and self-love. Some have succeeded and others need assistance getting back on track. Some were on track and somehow took a turn down a path that didn’t seem to lead to their goal. That’s what I am here to assist you with, finding and remaining on a path that will lead you to success, abundance, health and peace in your life. Sometimes that path may not appear to be the right path but as you continue along you may realize it is. So don’t jump off track just yet, let’s take a look at what is going well and then just tweak some of your actions, behaviors, thoughts to allow you to learn the lesson at hand and move on a little faster.

At the present time I am a Certified Life Coach (Quantum Success Coaching Academy), a Therapeutic Touch practitioner, a Graduate Instructor of Dale Carnegie Course, a doTerra Wellness Advocate, and facilitate meditations.

Meditating in Nature

Meditating in Nature

I look forward to guiding you as you awaken your inner self and find your way on your creative journey to an awesome, loving, abundant, adventure filled life.

Love and Light,
Sandy

35 thoughts on “Meet Sandy

  1. Hi Sandy, thank you for following my blog. I think that your story is very uplifting and empowering.

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  2. HI Sandy- Thank you for following my photography blog, Jane’s Lens. I hope you are inspired. Your story certainly is inspiring.

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  3. It seems this is a critical time for us to awaken, and live a life that celebrates our interconnectedness… I just wanted to send you a virtual kudo and congratulate you on the work you are doing.

    — Lola Jane

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  4. Hi Sandy, I clicked into your blog from a comment you made on “Walking My Path” which happens to be one of my very favorite blogs. I have looked at some of your posts and I love the positive approach that your embrace. We each have a series of life events that bring us to where we are. I too am at a point where I see the importance of dealing with life’s challenges and blessings from an even mindset. I am not always successful but become better and better at moving back to a state of equilibrium. I look forward to following you and reading more of your insights.

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    • Thank you for visiting my site. “Walking My Path” is one of my favorites. Mary and I discovered we have a lot in common. Living mindfully and enjoying every moment is an important part of life. I look forward to following you as well and learning of your journey. Your photos are amazing. Love and Light!

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  5. Hi Sandy… thanks for stopping by my blog a few days back. Your life’s journey is an inspiration!

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  6. Thanks for stopping by to my blog, Sandy… Following you now.

    cheers,
    Nurul

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  7. Hello Sandy! I’ve decided to read and follow 10 interesting and new blogs a day every day of May 2015, and yours is today’s #6! Feel free to come visit me when you can at http://www.thatssojacob.wordpress.com, and follow if you like what you read. Happy blogging!

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  8. Hello Sandy: So nice to meet you this morning over my cup of coffee! Thanks for stopping by and Liking “On the Way”. Am relatively new to this blogging world (March) and have especially enjoyed the “Return Policy” that seems indigenous to this cyber space….as in you Like something and I get to then go to your site and meet you 🙂 I’ve met so many interesting folks, seen so much amazing art, photography, writing, recipes…an amazingly diverse group of people. Reading about the shifts in your life — excellent word to use. For many, I think it’s difficult to have the peripheral vision to recognize where a shift can occur….they plow straight ahead and keep the course. It’s the turnings that can make life so interesting, right? And you’ve done an amazing job of finding the places to turn. Much admiration for your life’s work. If you look at my About, you’ll see how much I believe in the powers of communication….the word can affect perceptions, action, self-esteem. When my children (now 38 and 40) were in their challenging twos (not terrible), and they would break into those high pitched screams that very young children do in moments of frustration or moments of “Mine!” — I would always say “Use your words” — and here I am, many many many years later, following the same moniker myself. New to poetry writing (February) — it has been a delight to find my inner and creative voice and let it out! 🙂 I am in my period of rejuvenatement (definitely not retirement) and having great fun with it! Someone said, I should start a Rejuvenators movement. 🙂
    Your photos are stunning — your site a testament to those turns we can take in life if only we’ll see the peripheral vision!
    Best wishes to you…..and I do hope you’ll meander by again! (If you do, check out my poem Pollyanna — and Dancer Down — Think they’re under Humor? They’re who I am.
    lillian

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    • Lillian thank you for sharing. I will definitely take a stroll over to read Pollyanna and Dancer Down. I love the idea of a Rejuvenators movement!! Going to check out your site now. Glad that you enjoyed my site. Love and Light!!

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  9. Hi dear, I hope you don’t mind – I have nominated you for the Creative Bloggers Award 🙂 See this page for more information about the nomination: https://mymessyworldhere.wordpress.com/2015/06/09/my-very-first-blog-award/

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  10. Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. Very encouraging! The world needs more people like yourself. Keep up the good work!

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  11. Wow. What a motivating and encouraging About story. I felt inspired just reading what you have experienced and accomplished in your life. I feel honoured to follow you and learn more as I read your posts. Take care, Cheryl

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  12. Hello:)
    Just leaving you an invite to join a weekly photo challenge, where you can meet other bloggers and share your work:)
    This week’s theme is ‘enchanted’:)
    Here is all the info you need!
    https://myredpage.wordpress.com/2015/07/09/camera-lucida-enchanted/

    Hope to see you there:)

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  13. Thanks for dropping by my blog. What an inspiring life story so far!

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  14. Such an inspiring account you wrote. I’m going to follow you now and see where life takes you. All the best from Brisbane, Australia.

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  15. Thank you for sharing your story. It resonates with me as I’m on a journey of self-discovery aiming to be a better version each and every day, and I hope that I am able to convey this to my clients. The context is different for them – organisational coaching versus personal – and I still hope that something of which they discover will trans-contextualise into their personal lives.

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    • Regina as a former team coach I found that many of the staff would share that their relationships with their partners and children changed as a result of what they learned during teaming. Wishing you the best in guiding them along their path!!

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  16. Hi Sandy, thanks for stopping by my blog.
    Your post and life is so inspiring. I agree with you that life is full of ups and downs and “We all have ebbs and flows in our lives….”

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  17. Fascinating story Sandy. Well done. I think Incould do with some of that meditation work you are advocating.

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