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Learning to live in the moment.

Hope you are enjoying your week! A little latte and writing material, all set for a nice break and some memories.

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My daughter texted tonight to share with her sister and I that the baby was in bed sleeping at 6:30 and she had her bath all ready. It would be the first since giving birth seven months ago. Just prior to getting settled into the tub she went in to check on him. I would have told her not to go in because he was sleeping. You probably guessed – he woke up.

This reminded me of when my own children were little. A bath was a luxury and a rare occasion back then. On my birthday, the two older kids would watch their little sister while I was treated to alone time in the bathroom with a candle and bubble bath while listening to Enya. Sometimes this luxury would last for ten minutes, other times less than five before the arguing began. I do remember one time it seemed so quiet that I got out to check on them only to find them all cuddled up watching a movie. I dried off and went out to watch with them. The truth was spending time with them was a luxury. Between the three part-time jobs, college, study and feeding them the moments of sitting on the couch, a walk in nature, eating dinner at the table were the best moments. One we sometimes takes those moments for granted while in the midst of trying to survive.

This leads me back to my latte and journal. A bath was a dream, not a reality during those times of single motherhood. Many days I think how nice it would be to return to those missed baths and arguing children but life moves on and children do as well. They have their own lives, just as it should be. Now I have luxurious baths, times to meditate, write, travel, explore new hobbies, nature, and meet new friends. There are adjustment periods – not just one moment – there are many over time.

When the holidays come and you find out everyone has somewhere else to be. Or when you want to get everyone together in one place after not seeing them for a couple of months and there are texts back and forth to make plans, you wonder – doesn’t anyone use the phone any longer. Then there are those times, like the death of my mother’s anniversary, when you wish your own mother was still here so you could stop by for a cup of tea. That is when you miss your own children the most.

For me this is one of the reasons meditation, practicing mindfulness, learning and sharing energy healing has become such an integral part of my life. My mother’s lifestyle is gone to the grave with her. That generation lived a totally different lifestyle than we do today. I wouldn’t be happy sitting home caring for all of my grandchildren every day. We all know that. Seeing them once in a while and talking on FaceTime make the moments we share even more important. When using FaceTime with my grandson in California I pull out toys to show him, sing songs, dance, show him the front porch and all the toys that await his next visit. Sometimes I’ll swing while talking to him and sit near a tree. It keeps his attention, he is two now, and I enjoy entertaining him.

Life is different, society has changed and it will never return to where it once was. Not better or worse – just different. So when we are together I soak them in – cuddle, hug, laugh, and do silly things. If we are together more than a week, I can tell they begin to feel an urge to return home. It isn’t that we don’t love each other, we just live in a different time and space. When they leave I pick up a book, meditate, go for a walk in nature, or create something. It is time to redefine myself once again and truthfully I am loving life. We had a wonderful time together throughout all the ups and downs we loved, laughed and learned about life. I am proud of my children and truthfully, I am proud of myself for raising independent, interesting, loving adults.

So, now I sip my coffee and write in my journal about where I will be next year and what my hopes and goals are for the future.

  • Live mindfully – in the moment
  • Network and manifest new life coaching clients.
  • receive my certificate for Therapeutic Touch (TT).
  • Manifest TT clients
  • Attend a TT retreat and meet develop skills
  • Attend the QSCA Business retreat
  • Success at the gym over the next six months with the guidance of the weekly sessions with a trainer and healthy eating.
  • Another visit to San Diego to attend the Quantum Success Coaching Academy Business retreat.
  • Create a new business plan
  • Create a mindfulness program to share locally
  • Create a few meditations and upload on YouTube
  • Three visits with my daughter and her family
  • Attend my son’s gallery openings
  • Take monthly walks in nature with my youngest daughter and her baby
  • Publish and article or even a book
  • Declutter some more until I feel flow in my home
  • Sell or donate items
  • Volunteer at the hospital two days per week instead of one
  • Take a ten mile hike
  • Take a photography class
  • Take a painting class
  • Create more jewelry
  • Write one hour per day
  • Meet with the trainer once per week at the gym and exercise two times on my own
  • Walk in nature three times per week – recording sounds of nature while in the woods
  • Learn how to cook a new recipe
  • Meet new friends
  • Pay off my car
  • Save $10,000

The list may look overwhelming however it energizes me to think of all the possibilities that can manifest in a month, six months, a year. Hey, one never knows what they are capable of until the take the first step. The first leads to the second and eventually you reach your goals. Remember I was that single mom, first child at 17, who spent ten years in the Army National Guard, raised three children, made minimum wage during most of their childhood, completed college and earned a Master’s Degree, now I earn more in an hour than what I earned in a day back then. I am grateful every day for all of the blessings that have been bestowed upon me in this life. Truthfully, I have no regrets. Life is a learning lesson and I have remained open to whatever lessons came along. There are plenty more ahead and I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.

If you are interested in setting goals and moving forward in your life, leave a comment below or email me at spiritofdragonflies@gmail.com. We can discuss your goals and my skills to see if we are a match. Remember, it is your story so write your list and take that first step.

Love and Light!

 


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WPC – Future

The past and the present might be open to interpretation, but are still constrained by the reality of what was and is. The future? It’s tremendously intangible, brimming with possibility.

This week, share an image that represents the potential of things to come.

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Finding my flock/tribe to fly with

At the beginning of every year I prepare a Vision Board. One or two on a paper boards and a couple (health, career, finance, adventure) on MindMovies. You can check out Natalie Ledwell’s MindMovies site by clicking on this link:

http://www.mindmovies.com

So many people in my community speak of retirement – can’t wait until they retire. Many are in the thirties and forties. This is sad because they have years ahead of them focusing on a day in the future that may never come, or if it does, they will miss the days and years of adventures in-between. Using a mindfulness approach to the future, I focus on this moment, this day, next month, six months, and a year with a long-term goal of what my accomplishments will be over a lifetime.

Below is a Vision Board created in 2013. It was after I left my husband and his house. I had a new career, new apartment, and was beginning anew. At the time I wanted to find a rental home and live in a place similar the memory of my deceased Aunt Betsy’s home which was filled with love items/memories and sunshine.

Vision Board from 2013

Vision Board from 2013

Within eight months I relocated to a rental home closer to work. The home filled quickly with loved items – not all of my liking but loved by someone in the past. This happens when you try to become a minimalist – friends and family think you are lacking and share items with you. Out of love of course. When my niece came to visit she walked around the house and said “You have created your Vision Board.” Not the exact items but the energy of the board. Amazingly many of the physical realities of this home were included in my MindMovie. The house, although mine is brick-red, it is exactly like the yellow house in my movie. With the front yard, trees, garage, and swing.

This year, my current Vision Board was no longer serving me or representing the direction I want my life to flow. It was an AHA moment. My view of the future has changed – not just a little but quite a bit over the last three years. The colors that have followed me for over a decade no longer suit me, neither do the clothing style or material possessions. While reviewing some of the magazine pictures that were cut in January, it surprised me that I no longer had any feeling toward the houses, clothing, colors – mainly reds and golds. It looked like a lot of clutter. I am now drawn to sky blue, turquoise, jade, mint green, white with pops of yellow and red, although the colors of autumn do still hold a special place in my heart. A minimalist lifestyle spent in nature whenever possible is where I find myself today and in the future.

Female friends are taking on a new role in my life – finding my tribe of women to fly with is a priority. I am not sure if this is a part of the whole aging process or not, I yearn for that connection and closeness to female friends similar to my youth. I remember sitting on my friend’s front porch talking about our future and how we would still be friends in our ‘old’ age. We lost touch over three decades ago. Creating the vision board has brought me to this place – not a place of sadness but a place of knowing. Knowing exactly what and where I am heading to a life filled with love, friendship, camaraderie, laughter, creativity, and nature.

 

It may be that as I journeyed into my fifties there was a shift as most people share however my view on life and what is important has completely shifted. It might be a return to the adult me I visualized myself being in my teens. Sometimes I find myself in turmoil between holding on to where I have been, my idea of what this stage of my life should look like, and the direction that my new self wants to venture. Material possession have less hold over me. When I think of the home I want to live in or the car I want to drive – the actual material objects disappear. What has replaced this is a feeling/energy of what I want a home, car and other possessions to provide. When with family, friends, co-workers, interacting with people in general I want to be able to remain at peace, filled with love and compassion. My home is my sanctuary, a peaceful place to return to reenergize.

Many of my past vision boards have come to fruition and this surprises some, not me. I know what we think about and place our energy on comes to fruition. We are manifestors of our realities. As we think about our futures, we should pay more attention to our words and actions. Even if we think we don’t have everything available to us now, paying attention to our feelings about this moment will change our reality of how we think about life. By researching, networking, stepping out of our comfort zone we expand our realities and gain a better understanding of how far we can reach. Regular meditation, life coaching sessions, energy healing, and self-assessing have changed my life and preparing a Vision Board provides visual direction.

If you are interested in participating in this week’s daily challenge or would like to submit your own photos please click on this link:

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/photo-challenges/future

We all posses this inner power to be who we are meant to be. If you are unsure how to shift and would like guidance, please contact me. I am a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, Therapeutic Touch practitioner, and facilitate meditations. If you need some guidance we can create a plan to guide you along your path to living a mindful life to reach your goals and dreams.

Love and Light!


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WPC – Life Imitates Art – 2

This week, find inspiration in a piece of art. Then, imitate it.

While visiting my son, Joseph Yetto, a painter, on the easel I noticed he was painting a self portrait. Of course I made him poise next to it and he accommodated me.

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Joseph Yetto’s self portrait in progress

This isn’t his first self portrait. When my daughter, Allison, and I shared an apartment in Irvine, CA I placed a life size self portrait of Joe in the hallway near my room. This is Joe staring out at you. Actually when you move in front of this painting it feels and looks as if he is following you with his eyes. I love it! It currently hangs in a guest bedroom in my home.

Joe's self portrait from the early years

Joe’s self portrait from the early years

When Allison went to the bathroom in the night I would hear her scream and then say, “Joe you scared the crap out of me.” It would always make me laugh because she never remembered it was hanging there until she was exiting the bathroom. Still makes me laugh!

In my youth I had wanted to become an artist and loved drawing, especially with India Ink. Having my son become an accomplished artist has been a wonderful experience. I live vicariously through him as he engages with the art world and networks with some of the great artists such as his recently deceased employer, Ellsworth Kelly. One day, I shall return to drawing and might even try a little painting myself. One never knows what they are capable of until they try. As a parent I always told my children to do what they love and the money will follow. Luckily, Joe listened. Isn’t life grand!!

If you would like to see more of his work click on this link:  http://josephyetto.com

If you would like to see more entries for this week’s photo challenge or would like to enter your own, click on the link below:

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/photo-challenges/life-imitates-art/

Love and Light!


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Write a New Story for 2016

Are you ready?

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Do you want to write a new story but find yourself replaying the old one year after year?

Let’s get together and write a new story for 2016. One where you take the lead and begin to manifest your dream life. If you say you can’t change anything, then you are correct however if you are ready to live BIG, I can guide you along a new path one step at a time.

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Break off into a new direction.

 

Go ahead, give it a try. The first 30 minute call is free. We can chat to see if we are a match. If so, we can form a partnership.

Time doesn’t stand still for anyone. Today is the day to transform your life and play the lead role in your own LIFE. It won’t always be easy but will be well worth the time and effort. My goal is to guide people using their own skills, knowledge, resources, and networking abilities to spread their wings and fly!

Go ahead and leave an email or email me privately: spiritofdragonflies@gmail.com.

I look forward to working with you and witnessing your transformation.

Love and Light!

 

 


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52 Week Money Challenge

If you have difficulty saving money try this technique. Take small steps and save big by the end of the year. Decide on a goal and watch your money grow throughout the year. I did this last year and it was fun.

52 Week Money Challenge

This money was never to be touched so by placing it in a jar and only touching the jar when placing money within allowed me to keep an out of sight out of mind savings. Have some fun with this. If you live with other family member, get them involved in watching the money grow. Maybe set a family goal or use the amount saved at the end of the year to start a nice nest egg by keeping the money and adding to it in 2017 too.
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Home Philosophy

Saving money can be very difficult if you don’t plan it out well. That is why I’m here to introduce to you the 52 Week Money Challenge. I’m not the first person who has thought of this concept that I’m about to introduce to you. Unfortunately, I don’t know the original source. However, my goal is to forward this great information to encourage and motivate you to save money for something you really want.

Let me explain this challenge. Take a look at the template below. It consists of 52 weeks and for each corresponding week, you will add that amount. So Week 1 = $1, Week 2 = $2, Week 3 = $3 and so forth. If you’re starting late like I am, you can catch up by putting in the missed weeks or start now and end in January. To keep track of the weeks, I’ll be…

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In response to The Daily Post’s weekly photo challenge: “Victory.”

 

Releasing fear behind as I zip through the forest

Releasing fear behind as I zip through the forest

This week’s challenge reminded me of a personal victory I had while visiting Alaska. First it was a personal victory to even visit this massive state – it was a dream since my youth.

Zip lining is something I was familiar with and had an experience with once when I brought a foster child I was working with to Adirondack Experience for a reunion visit. There were a dozen girls who were at the reunion, many from the urban areas and attending the week in the Adirondacks was taking them out of their comfort zones. Add in the rope courses, zip lining and climbing poles was even further out of their element. The youth I brought wanted to climb up the tree ladder and experience the zip line but fear overtook her. I, with my fear of heights, hadn’t planned on participating but decided to show her that to overcome her fears she had to experience this, that day, for she may never have this experience again.

I slowly climbed the ladder, looking upward for fear if I looked down I would freeze. While in BASIC training with the Army I froze when climbing the various obstacles along the obstacle course but pushed forward because I wanted to lead the young girls who were in my company. I was 32 at the time serving with girls as young as 17 year olds old. So, climbing this tree with this young girl’s future in mind put enough pressure on me to climb to the top but this time I was in my late 40s. Once at the top, I sat and slid over to the guide. He locked me in to the harness and I scooted to the edge – feet dangling as I continued to look out and up at the trees. I leaned back and whispered for him to shove me off because I would never willingly jump off. He said lean forward. I asked for him to repeat. He did and added that I should look at the trees and lean forward. The girls were shouting encouragement from below and then I leaned over to look down at them and, I was flying in the air down through the trees so quick that it was all a blur. At the end the rope snapped tight and my feet continued onward out in front of me, then back behind me a few times until the weight of my body and gravity brought my body to a slow swing. The guide met my feet with a ladder and once my feet were secure I released the lock of the harness from the rope. The girls were cheering and I was still in disbelief. It was a wonderful feeling but my body continue to shake in response to the experience.  I wasn’t ready to try again.

A decade later, my sister and I were checking out the excursions on the cruise ship and I decided zip lining in Alaska would add to my experience and fulfilled a few dreams – Alaska, temperate rain forest and zip lining. My sister declined the invitation so I went off on my own.

We road a boat across the bay to the island. Having an island of trees was pretty amazing to begin with. There were several zip lines throughout the adventure. The first wasn’t too long or too high – higher than the Adirondack Experience but compared to what was to come in hindsight it wasn’t. The trees were further apart as well. When I climbed the platform tears of joy filled my eyes – I was in Alaska, in a temperate rain forest zip lining. It was overwhelming. My knees were not quite as excited as they wobbled under me and my heart joined in with a little extra thump now and then. I was not going to let this stop me.

They buckle you up and off you go into the trees, sometimes not even knowing where you will land but I continued onward with others in my group.

Getting ready for my turn

Getting ready for my turn

I received my certificate and medal to show that I was victorious. Might have even stood a little taller and straighter that day. What better way to experience Alaska!!

Love and Light!


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Challenging Ourselves One Step at a Time

 

This is the year of challenges and taking chances – one step at a time. If we don’t try we will never know what we are capable of accomplishing. Recently, while in Barnes and Noble, I picked up a copy of Digital Photo magazine and found the 2015 Landscape Photo Contest. I have submitted four photos and was surprised to discover that two of the four have 200+ and 100+ votes. All four have with 5 stars ratings with the third totaling over 90 votes and the last entry with 8.  I was excited and grateful just to have the opportunity to enter the contest. All four photos were taken prior to receiving my new Nikon camera. If you like my photos I would be very grateful if you would visit the sites I have attached below and vote for these photos.

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Peaceful setting at Nelson House in Saratoga National Historical Park

The red house has been visited by my children and I for many years. We would take long walks in the park and stop to for a snack and drink of water. When small, my children would play on the porch and pretend that they lived in this home. As adults we stop by and take a rest on the porch. The tree is beautiful in the autumn and I have plenty of shots of this with the reds and orange leaves. In the spring there is a beautiful lilac bush in bloom and walking past the fresh scent of lilacs greats you. From this porch you can see for miles across the Hudson River to the mountains of eastern New York. It is a breathtaking site especially in autumn and when dusted in a winter snow.

http://www.dpmag.com/photo-contests/landscapes/gallery/862171-saratoga-national-park-stillwater-ny#.VeHxFayPYPk.facebook

Autumn at Adirondack Lake located in Indian Lake, NY

Autumn at Adirondack Lake located in Indian Lake, NY

Adirondack Lake is the perfect spot for kayaking in spring, summer or fall. It is a nice place for fishing and hearing loons. Last year while kayaking we met upon loons and their nest in the far off area of the lake. It is a very peaceful setting. This photo was taken on an overnight at Binder’s cabins located across the street. If you ever get the chance to visit upstate New York and travel on Route 28N stop by and take a little rest at Adirondack Lake.

http://www.dpmag.com/photo-contests/landscapes/gallery/862181-fall-adirondack-lake-in-ny

If you have a chance and would like to vote for my photos I would be very grateful for your support. If you have photos that you would like to enter you still have time to enter the contest.

When we take small steps eventually we reach our goals. What steps are you taking to reach your goals?

Love and Light!