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Kripalu Mindfulness Outdoor Experience Guide & Life Coach – Get Outside. Go Within.

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Small Steps Lead to a Successful Journey


A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.                  ~ Old Chinese Proverb ~


When we set a goal sometimes it can become overwhelming if we focus on where we are going. It is when we are able to look at where we are compared to where we have been that we find our strength to continue to move forward. For those just starting their journey, look at where you are and make a decision to take small steps. Then write down a plan of action to take one small step a day.

If you would like to lose weight, set a goal of one pound per week or even one pound per month. What could you do today that would help you reach that goal. Is there something in your refrigerator or cabinet that you could eliminate – maybe soda, chips, coffee creamer? If you are a soda drinker could you cut back to one per day or one every other day? Look at your daily eating habits and make one small change. Write out a grocery list and stick to it. Never go grocery shopping when you are hungry, you will purchase more prepackaged food or snack foods if you do. Eat prior to shopping and bring your list. Clean out the poor food choices so you will not be tempted and don’t allow yourself to eat in front of the television. We tend to eat more if sitting in front of the television. Also, use smaller plates for portion control.

If you would like to start exercising and get in shape could you park further from your office, home, store? Adding a few extra steps into your daily routine is a start. If you have been a couch potato maybe you can place your remote further away from where you are sitting so you have to get up every time you want to change the channel. Start taking a walk around your block after dinner or in the morning before breakfast. A quick walk or even a leisurely walk around the block every other day can start the process. After a couple of weeks add in another block, then another until you walk a mile every other day. Eventually this will increase and you will find yourself looking forward to taking a walk as you reap the health benefits.

If you would like to save some money, can you put away a dollar per week or maybe ten? Take a look at your daily spending habits. If you like to purchase lunch, can you make your lunch and bring it to work every other day? Can you bring your own coffee every other day for a week and then every day. The money you save can be placed in a piggy bank. Once the bank is filled place the savings in a bank account. Once per month place the money in your bank in your bank account and at the end of the year you will have a nice little nest egg started. Or, you can start placing all of your change in a jar or piggy bank. Every time you owe change give the sale clerk a dollar. Take the change and place it in your piggy bank with the money you are saving from the lunch and coffee. You will be surprised how quickly the change will add up. Just seeing the money growing in the piggy bank or jar will excite you. Once in the bank, watching the balance increase will help you see the benefits of your actions.

If you would like to pay off your credit cards start with your lowest amount and pay a little extra on it every month. Instead of the minimum payment, add an extra $10 to the payment or $20 if you can. Pay the minimum on the others and continue to pay more on the smallest amount until it is paid off. Once that bill is paid, take the money you were paying on that card and add it to the next. This will eliminate the debt on the second card even faster. You will be surprised how quickly you can become debt free using this process. It may take a couple of years but this process will knock years off of your debt and allow you to become debt free in half the time if you just paid the minimum on all of your cards.

If your goal is to learn a language, play an instrument, learn a new skill remember that you didn’t know anything about it until you started. Many people give up learning because it doesn’t happen fast enough or someone says something that discourages you. If you can learn one new note, one new word, or anything you didn’t know the day before, you are ahead of the game. It is not about being an expert, it’s about the process, the fun, the baby steps of the long journey. Living in the moment and enjoying life is the most important thing about change. If the process becomes a chore or burden you will give up but if it becomes fun then you will want to stick to it.

As you can see the journey may be long but can become a lot shorter if you start by taking baby steps and being happy where you are today knowing you are moving in the right direction. If we focus on the long journey it become overwhelming and can result in our failure. Taking small steps will lead to success and enjoyment in life. For today, be grateful for where you are. Write down steps you can take starting right now or tomorrow and once you begin to accomplish those small steps be grateful that you made the decision and commitment to yourself. Then take the steps. If you can write them on a calendar and mark off each day that you take a step in red pen at the end of the month you will see red marks for each day you were good to yourself. This will give you the incentive you need to take the steps and mark the red X. Eventually everyday on the calendar will have red and you will be proud of yourself. If you take a back step, don’t criticize yourself just be grateful for those days you succeeded. Sometimes it takes three steps forward and one step back, sometimes two to set change in motion. As long as you take some steps forward each month you will eventually reach your goals.

I am here to assist if you needed. Sending you Love and Light as you start your journey.


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House as Home


In my last post I discussed making your house a home by decluttering one small step at a time. I am not really a small step kind of person because once I get started I can’t wait to see the results.

After living in my rental home for 9 months I finally have the living, dining, and kitchen in flow. Some pieces of furniture had to go and smaller, lighter furniture replaced most of the dark, heavy furniture. It was my office that just wasn’t working. After changing the furniture several times, cleaning out files, removing books (probably around 50) and decluttering other items I still did not feel it. Here was this office that I never sat in to write, read, or to work on my budget. Things began piling up on the floor which caused me to avoid this room. The living, dining room or front porch are the placed I felt more comfortable.

Interestingly when I originally saw the house I thought the back bedroom would be a perfect office and the front room a nice sunny bedroom. When my daughter was helping me move in she convinced me that the back room would be better for sleep because there were trees for shade and the front room was nice and bright for writing. I agreed. My advice – listen to your intuition. That small voice within that whispers the truth. I didn’t because I ignored the whisper for logic.

So today I spent my Sunday moving all of my shelves, books, desk, chairs and other items from the front to the back of the house which meant that my bed, dresser and end stands had to be moved to the front of the house. The nicely settled living and dining room were turned upside down for a while as the box springs, mattress, dresser and end stands sat waiting their turn for their new placement. It was great, the sheets, blanket and bedspread were washed as were the curtains. It made more sense to bring the pieces of furniture from the office first so I could situate the desk then bring in one book shelf at a time. Once the book shelf was in a place that felt right I would bring in the books. After all four bookshelves were set in a place that flowed I move on to the bedroom which took much less time to settle. Then it was time to see what was left in the living and dining room. As the time was running out I decided to bring everything left to the small bedroom.


The top left is the back bedroom after the bedroom furniture was removed. While empty I took advantage of cleaning the room and smudging with Sage. I walked around the room saying affirmations for peace, love, abundance, joy, laughter, creativity, success, paying clients, and such. The top right photo is after my desk was placed in the room. The view to the outside is great and very inspirational. The leaves on the tree near the window turn a beautiful red in the fall. What a perfect scene that will be for writing inspiration. The bottom picture is the bedroom after cleaning and smudging. There was enough room for the bed, end stands, dresser and a perfect spot for my meditation alter.

My living and dining room are back in shape. The small bedroom has some items from the office that I need to go through so that is for another day. This is when I follow my own advice and take it one small step at a time. I will pull out some papers and spread them out on the carpet in the living room so I can sort, file and shred as needed. Then I will go through the remaining books another night to see if there are any I can donate.

I didn’t touch the closets so those are for another day. When clearing closet clutter I pull everything out and sort the clothing into my favorites and items that mix and match. Then I check to see if there are any items that I haven’t worn in the last year. If so, those go on a donation pile. Then as I place the clothing back in the closet I sort it by color. This makes selecting items to wear very easy. All dresses, blazers and slacks are together and sorted by color. This is easy because most of my dresses and slacks are black. Then I sort the colors of tops like the rainbow. This makes the closet fun and I really don’t have that many clothes anyway. For me too many pieces of clothing is a waste of time and money. We all generally wear the same thing every week so why bother having clothing I won’t wear. Shoes are the same. I am not a shoe-aholic like many women and I hear men too now. I can only wear one pair at a time so one brown and one black pair of shoes, two pairs of sandals and two pairs of sneakers. Then I have rubber boots, work boots, hiking boots, and snow boots. That’s it and they don’t take up a lot of space.

Next week, the refrigerator and cabinets. I can’t wait until every room in my house is flowing. Then I will invite family and friends for a get-together. I will be in my office this week writing. The energy is flowing in my home tonight and my energy is flowing as well. It feels great to clean and declutter. It is a better natural high than drinking spirits. Give it a try and let me know how it makes you feel.

I will keep you posted on my next steps and how long it takes me to put my small bedroom back together. You will also learn how I use feng shui to move energy and some easy fixes.

Love and Light,