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Kripalu Mindfulness Outdoor Experience Guide & Life Coach – Get Outside. Go Within.


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Finding Your Still Point

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In flight yet the dragonfly appears to be still as the environment gives one the illusion of motion. We can live choosing thoughts that manifest the life we want to live or that of which we do not. If your life is spinning out of control you have lost your still point. It doesn’t matter if you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, like the Law of Gravity whether we believe or not it’s true. Finding the still point within releases the illusion, allows you to manifest your dreams, and sets you free.

When looking at the photo, I think of how people are constantly in motion without realizing that they are missing this inner peace. Many people are searching through drugs, alcohol, shopping, eating for that something they can’t seem to name. That something is inner peace – your still point.

To live in a state of motion while remaining still within, that is the secret to living on purpose.

  • What if, you were able to learn how to remain still no matter what is happening in the environment.
  • What if, you were able to release the meaningless motion and minutia from your life
    • Does your past story really matter today?
    • Does it matter to the person you are striving to become?
  • What if,  you were able to take a little time out of your day for meditation allowing yourself a gift of inner peace and quiet.

There is a peaceful still point within all of us. If you can find that spot, then like the dragonfly captured in the still point while in flight, you will be able to remain in a peaceful state while life happens.

Practicing stillness allows you to remain peaceful while in traffic jams, during meetings at work, during job interviews, while facing the death of loved ones, throughout the aging process, and eventually while actively dying. When visiting patients in what is called the ‘actively’ dying phase, we have found that bringing a stillness to their body brings them peace. Their anxiety softens the creases and strain on their faces. Their hands lie softly at their sides or in their laps and they sleep more soundly. Recently we have also discovered that Alzheimer patients are responding to Therapeutic Touch (TT) and meditation. Families, nurses and physicians are noticing personality changes in their Alzheimer patients and the patients, themselves, are asking for TT therapy. If meditation and TT can bring this peace to them, just  imagine what it can do for you.

Everyone and everything has a time limit. During the in-between lies a peaceful place within – your still point – which can only be found by slowing down, changing your mindset, releasing past worries, concerns, nostalgia, and finding your inner peace somewhere in-between here and there.

If you are ready to slow down, practice mediation and/or receive TT treatment please contact me for a free 30 minutes consultation. I would love to guide you to that special place within that only you can find with a little guidance. If interested please leave a message below or email me at:

spiritofdragonflies@gmail.com.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Love and Light!


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Finding Balance on Your Life Journey

Guiding you on the journey from darkness into the light

Guiding you on the journey from darkness into the light. We need both because the world is a balance – a give and take. Without one we do not seem to appreciate the other. Looking at what you do not want allows you to focus on what you do. As you begin to focus more on what you want, you begin to attract what you focus on into your life.

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Allowing the light to show you the way – see the contrast and focus on what you want in life.

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Finding the messages in nature. This reminded me of a heart and someone left the message to find balance and be open to the beauty in the world and spread love.

If you need some assistance in finding balance and reaching your goals I would love to guide you along on your journey. Feel free to contact me for a consultation.

Love and Light!


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Be Grateful and Remain Focused on What You Want

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut and can’t think beyond the immediate situation whether that be lack of finances, dislike of our job, house repairs, anger at a spouse or significant other, our children’s poor behavior or a multitude of other daily events. Sometimes these thoughts take over our life and we can’t seem to move forward.

Now think of times in your life that you were so happy and content that you wanted the feeling to last forever. The birth of a new baby, wedding, engagement, while playing with children, a windfall of cash whether it be income tax return – inheritance – bonus, vacation, everything working the way you planned.

We need more of the feelings we receive from the latter when we are happy and content in life. We can have this everyday maybe at different levels but it is always there and available to us no matter what is occurring outside of us. Even if we are ill, know someone who is ill, have lost a loved one, or had any other life events that cause a trauma, sadness or leave us at a loss for what to do.

You may be saying this isn’t possible. How can you remain happy and content in life if you just found out you have cancer or a loved one has a terminal disease? Or you may wonder how anyone can be happy if they become unemployed, can’t pay the bills, foreclose on their house.

There are people who do remain in a place of contentment and find something to be grateful for no matter what the circumstance. You have heard the expression if one door closes another opens. Look at people you may know who have lost jobs they despised. Even though they despised the job and complained about it daily, the loss of that position made them face a closing door. What if they had been grateful to have a job, to receive a paycheck, to enjoy getting up and going to work with their coworkers. When they no longer had this position they became grateful for the job and angry that it was no longer available. Now they had to face the new world of job searching, maybe learning new skills, reevaluating what was important in a job and heading in a different direction. They may have decided to start their own business in a field they love. As they move forward in this new position they become grateful that they were laid off or fired because it put them on a trajectory to where they wanted to be. It may have been the push they needed to move them in the direction of their dreams.

For someone who is ill, maybe they were living a life filled with stress or displeasure, not properly caring for their body. This is not for all people who become ill but if you look around there are many that are ill as a result of their eating poor diets, smoking, consuming too much alcohol or drugs, taking too many prescription drugs, lack of exercise, constant stressing over what might be. Sometimes an illness can be the wake up call – your body letting you know what you are doing isn’t working. Many times after a stressful situation that continues in the person’s mind well over the time of the event they may become ill. There are people who once they find out they are ill change their diet and begin a healthier lifestyle. Maybe they quit smoking after a heart attack and begin to eat natural food, adding more fruits and vegetables into their meal. They begin walking daily or join a gym, participate in a 3 or 5K event. They realize they are grateful for the illness that change their lives.

My question is why not just be grateful everyday for what we do have. Today I am grateful that I have a job that provides a decent salary with benefits, a rental home that keeps me safe and warm, food to eat, a car to drive, an Apple computer and iPhone. I didn’t always have these luxuries. When my children were small we didn’t have a car so I walked them to the babysitter and then walked the mile to work. We didn’t have a telephone (a time before cell phones) or a television. We spent our time together dancing to records on the turntable (we didn’t have CDs then). The kids played outside with the neighborhood children and they all came to my house to play and have snacks. They built an airplane from the toy box and wood in the back of the apartment and we played hide-n-seek in our house. We didn’t have very much but I was grateful everyday that I had my children and a job to pay the bills always knowing that their was more. Knowing that we would have more one day. I didn’t sit and feel bad, I searched for ways out of the situation. This is when I decided to find a way to attend college. Taking one course at a time, in the evening, over an eight year period I finally received an Associates in Science degree. My position in the factory changed from dish machine operator to Customer Service Representative to Office Manager, handling shipping and production, and eventually over the nine years I accepted an outside sales representative position. There were times of stress, three-month unemployment, little food to feed the children but we survived and looking back I feel this was due to feeling gratitude everyday the day – not every moment of the day – but throughout the day. In the midst of financial difficulty we could still dance, play, and focus on a better life in the future. I was grateful I had a job, that we had a place to live, and lived in an area where neighbors helped neighbors. It wasn’t the best location but it was safe and there were plenty of children on our street. I never doubted that the situation was temporary.

The day I received my Bachelor Degree from a private college I thought this was it. I was grateful to have received my Associates Degree so the BA was a bonus and the result of meeting the right people who guided me along the way. When I walked the stage at SUNY Albany to receive my Master’s Degree, I once again stood in awe because I knew anything was possible. Being open to receiving and meeting people along the way opened doors for me. There were many people along my path that provided insight, direction guidance and love. Not all of the advice and direction was welcomed at the time presented but they all provided direction needed at the time and I am forever grateful.

Live in the space in between – a grateful space between where you are and where you want to be. That space where people and events occur that clear the path to your future. Learn to be grateful in that space. Last year I walked the stage at UCLA to receive my Creative Writing diploma and tears filled my eyes because when I was that young mother walking to the factory job I had dreamed of the day I would graduate from UCLA. Dreams come true and once one is fulfilled have another waiting or in process.

Never give up, always continue to move forward one step at a time. Your dream today can become your reality tomorrow if you can just be grateful for where you are today knowing you are steps away from where you want to be. Smile once in a while and be friendly to all. You never know when the person you are speaking with in a coffee shop or while standing in line at the grocery may be a person to open a door and take you one step closer to your goal or you may be that person for them.

If you are interested in learning more about taking steps to reach your goals, please fill out the contact form below for a free one hour coaching session. I would love to hear from you and guide you on your path.

Live large, be grateful, and love life!!

Love and Light,

Sandy


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Snowy Day Decluttering Cont.

Update on my snowy day decluttering project. I would like to share that I have removed over 200 hundred books from my shelves after using Marie Kondo’s method of spreading the books on the floor and asking myself “Does this spark joy?” The result as you can see from the photo is a pile of books to donate and space on my shelves for other items that do spark joy.

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Don’t get me wrong, I still have hundred’s of books but was able to leave space on those still housing books and emptied one completely. Loving the space and will try this again in a couple of weeks to see if I can release more. The closets and drawers look great. Tomorrow will be the papers. Next week will be the kitchen cabinets again even though there isn’t very much to take out of those. The last decluttering removed all poor choices in food and they have not returned. Many dishes were released as well. By Spring this house will be home to only those items I truly love.

Another benefit of this process was by sharing my decluttering others were inspired to begin the process as well. That is what life is about, being inspired and inspiring others. Remember Law of Attraction – we attract what we think and feel. I feel abundant, giving, inspired, and free so I know the Universe is providing me with more of what I want in life. By releasing what no longer is needed in our life we can begin to attract what we do want as we move forward. Loving life!!

If you have an experience that you would like to share or if you would like a free 30 minute coaching session to help you get started leave me a comment below and I will be in touch.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Snowy Day Decluttering

What to do on a snowy windy day? Or rainy day? Well if you read any FaceBook posts it would seem to complain is the thing to do. Let’s not indulge those whose only means of entertainment and activity is to complain because it is too cold to drive to the mall. Let’s move our own lives in a different direction. One of hope, love, laughter, and enjoyment no matter what is occurring in our environment. This includes all the ebbs and flows in life.

Last night I began the act of cleaning and decluttering. If you read earlier posts you know that I did this in the summer and most people visiting would think I really don’t have too much clutter. Compared with some family members, I don’t have any clutter. However, yesterday after my iMovie class at Apple and speaking to the supervisor about a part-time position, I began to think about how to reduce time spent cleaning my home so I could be free to work my full-time position and a part-time position while writing my book, coaching, and motivating others. All of which are a priority in my life. Working at Apple would be an excellent opportunity to learn and enhance my computer skills – cleaning and holding onto items that are no longer useful in my new life are not. So releasing once again was a necessity.

I have hundreds of books sorted throughout the house by category. Women Studies are in the antique barrister bookcase in the living room. All books on neurology and brain – behavior are located on a shelf near the couch in the living room along with teaming and business books. Feng Shui, create books, and novels are on the bookshelf in the dining room. The dining room is also home to a small shelf of children’s books. On the small shelf in the hallway is a small collection of motivational books such as Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. This is strategically located so anyone heading to the bedrooms can grab something that might motivate them. In my office I have a very large shelf that is home to Memoirs, Law of Attraction, Writing, and Spiritual books along with some favorite items like my drum, family photos, and office supply crate. There is also an antique barrister bookshelf that has been home to all of my older philosophical books to include Ayn Rand, Lin Yutang, Jung and others. There is also one bookshelf that belonged to my mother which is home to my journals from over the last two decades. Some of those journals may start in January 1 of one year then in the center may begin with August three years later. There is no rhyme or reason. These I continue to hold on to for my writing material.

This brings me to decluttering. I have a few books on decluttering. Prior to beginning the process I sat with the newest in my collection and discovered a new thought on decluttering. In the past I have read books on decluttering by removing one item a day or donating an item if a new one is purchased. The latter is the way I try to keep a handle on my material possessions. I don’t know about you but it can be difficult to let go of some sentimental items even when they have long worn out their welcome. They sit looking at us day after day and we wonder why we keep them. Then we put it off for another day. Eventually they build up over time – people die and we take something that belonged to them, we can’t allow anything that belonged to our mother, father, aunt, uncle, friend to be passed to a stranger. Or remnants of a former relationship remain in a drawer, box in the attic, in the jewelry box. You know what you have hidden. Here are some of the books I have on decluttering.

Each one spoke to me when I purchased and read them. The book on De-Clutter, De-Stress Your Life was actually from a class I went to on releasing stress from your life. It was a very helpful class. The more stuff we have the more we have to care for – to dust – to find a place for – more upkeep – less time for doing what we want to do. We use our stuff as an excuse not to accomplish our goals. If we have to clean then we can’t write that novel or paint that picture or take that hike. If we don’t clean out that cabinet of food that is not healthy the better chance we will reach in and grab something unhealthy on those stressful days. The less we own the freer we are – that is a reality.

The newest book, the life-changing magic of tidying up – the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing by Marie Kondo, shares in the value of making one clean swoop and removing it all – removing it from your home immediately. The benefit is a renewed life. A fresh start. A release from what is holding you back.

So I will share what she feels about decluttering books. She said take them all off the shelf – ALL of them. This is a difficult task. As I shared there are all categorized by topic and author. Taking all the books off the shelf and placing them together on the floor. They are no longer lying dormant on the shelf. Then pick up each book and ask yourself “Does this spark joy?”

If too many like myself – she says to divide them by category. General (books you read for pleasure) – Practical (references, cookbooks), Visual (photograph collections), Magazines. Oh did I mention I have a collection of Victoria magazines from the 1990s – 2000 when they went out of business. Ms Kondo shares that you are not to start reading the book – this is what I end up doing. You can only touch it and ask yourself if you need it or not. We have to stop and think about the purpose the books serve. Now mind you, I felt very good about releasing the 60+ books sitting in a pile on the dining room floor. Today, on this cold February day, I shall go back through the books and whereto autographed or not only keep those that inspire me. There is always the library which can house the books and I can go there and borrow them when needed. After all my niece is a librarian and capable of finding books I am interested in reading.

Well I have to go now to place the remaining couple of hundred books on the floor to see which will remain in my hall of fame book collection. It is at once frightening and invigorating – almost freeing.

I’ll let you know how I it turns out. After the books, it will be time to tackle the papers sitting in the files from my writing classes and internships/fellowships from a decade ago.

What do you do when you are inside on those rainy, snowy, windy days?

Hope this helped. Decluttering results in releasing material belongings and freeing you which can reduce stress and improve health. Give it a try!!

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Guided Meditations

Have you ever attended a guided meditation? This is a question that came up today. If you haven’t I’ll explain what happens for you.

Sitting in a chair, on the floor or even lying down – in a group setting or on your own – the guide will bring you into an awareness of your body, generally through a body check. Once you are focused on your body parts and breathing the guide will take you on a journey, preferably with your eyes closed however they could provide a video with photos or a photo collage. Once you leave the space you are sitting, your mind will travel along with the guide into the forest, near a brook, to a large meadow, near a beach at the ocean or wherever they feel you benefit from visiting. Sometimes you might be brought into space, covered in light or having water gentle flow over you.

Roadside Waterfalls

Roadside Waterfalls

Pacific Coast Highway

Pacific Coast Highway

Sunset on the Pacific

Sunset on the Pacific

The beauty of a guided meditation is that the meditator doesn’t have to worry about the thoughts flooding their mind. The guide will share how to release those thoughts and allow them to wait for you until after the meditation. If you want to pick them up again they’ll be ready for you, if they’re no longer needed they will evaporate into thin air. Believe me there are ways the guide can assist you with this skill.

I am preparing a guided meditation to share on this website with you and have been reaching out to find a place to practice my creation. A couple of weeks ago I called to find out why the meditation at work was cancelled. It was one of those days that would have been nice to connect with like-minded people so when I returned to the office I emailed the EEOC personnel. She informed me that the meditation guide was not always available. I volunteered my services and she accepted. We met today for the first time. I will begin to work with another staff member guiding others during their lunch break through a meditation using my new creation.

Last weekend a nice young man at the Apple Store assisted me in combining the sounds of nature with my guided meditation. This weekend I will put the finishing touches on the recording and it is exciting to think that I will be sharing this for the first time next Tuesday. He also informed me that I could use iMovie to include the sounds, meditation and photos. So this coming weekend the same young man will be teaching me how to set up an iMovie meditation. The skies the limit when it comes to what you can achieve with technology but I think through meditation we can truly exceed technology by exploring what we are capable of achieving in our minds. Once we stop the chatter we can truly listen to our inner calling and live a passionate beyond our wildest dreams.

Stay tuned and see what I’ll be sharing with you in the near future. Remember – taking small steps leads to your preferred future.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Living Mindfully While Traveling for Work

Traveling for work can be stressful for some and was at one time for me as well. Now I find pleasure no matter where I travel, even while sitting in traffic. After discovering that listening to audio books can bring peace on the road – bring two for variety – especially when sitting in traffic. When traveling to the ‘north country’ New York State traffic jams are not a concern – weather on the other hand can be.

This week there was an overnight in Hogansburg, then on to Malone for a morning visit with my last stop in Elizabethtown for an afternoon visit. The weather was perfect – cold but sunny. The snow storm wasn’t expected to start until later in the afternoon. I love snow but traveling in the Adirondacks in bad weather can be a little frightening at times – no streets lights, no other cars for miles, and  there isn’t any cell service for long stretches.

Traveling south, as I was passing through Saranac Lake they were building the Ice Castle. This is why it is important to carry a camera or smart phone. This was a very interesting process. I had no idea that the blocks of ice were cut from the lake. It makes sense if you stop to think about it and this is why I am slowing down and taking time to think and be mindful of the world around me. As you can see from the photos below the ice was a beautiful shade of blue. After parking my rental car the first thing I noticed was a large cloud hanging pretty low in the sky above. It reminded me of a mitten with the thumb sticking out below or a whale. It wasn’t until I snapped the first photo that I noticed the large circle of light surrounding it. As you can see from the photo it was a complete circle hanging above the lake.

Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Preparing ice for the Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Preparing ice for the Saranac Lake Ice Sculpture

Circle around Cloud

Circle around Cloud

It was nice getting out of the car to stretch a bit and get my legs moving. I try to get out and stretch every hour and a half. After leaving Saranac Lake I traveled through a mountain range. We can see the high peaks in the distance. This is an area for hikers and mountain climbing. I enjoy this myself in the summer, it can be a little unpredictable in the winter due to the sudden snow storms. So I leave the winter climbing to the experts.

Adirondack Mountains, NY

Adirondack Mountains, NY

Feeling a little tired after my second meeting and another hour of driving, I decided to stop in Lake George for a cup of coffee. My favorite coffee shop was closed for the winter but fortunately I found  Cafe Vero – it was a delight. I brought in my camera and a book – was glad I did when the warmth of the fireplace greeted me. It was a very peaceful place to sit and read a book while sipping my latte. If you are in the area you can find Cafe Vero on Route 9. The staff is very friendly and the latte delicious. They had a maple glazed bacon donut that looked scrumptious, unfortunately I didn’t try it. Maybe next time.

Latte and fire at Cafe Vero in Lake George, NY

Latte and fire at Cafe Vero in Lake George, NY

In the past, when traveling for a week at a time I would bring candles, bath beads, framed family photos, books, colored pens, journals, magazines, scissors, glue, herbal tea, and a special tea-cup. Sometimes my pillow and a throw, if I didn’t travel by train. The hotel room would become a home away from home. When in NYC I would walk forty blocks after work and take photos of items in store windows and displays, food dishes, people, and items in the hotel room. It was a little stressful then because my youngest daughter was a teenager and I missed her. Fortunately for us, we had family members available in my absence.

If traveling for work, make the down time feel like a vacation then it becomes pleasurable. Enjoy the pool, jacuzzi, gym, and once in a while order room service. Think about the times in between work and home as the space between – it is in those spaces of time that you can bring peace into your life. Those spaces in time can be filled with meditations, reading, singing, laughing, seeing with new eyes, taking photos, meeting new people, learning new things. My time working as Congressional Fellow in Washington, D.C. is referred to as my working vacation. The girls were able to experience new schools, new friends, new sights, new travel on the metro. I lived a new experience everyday – meeting new people for around the country and world, exploring D.C. especially on weekends, participating in rallies – it was a true adventure. Today I live close enough to family that I can visit but in a new area with many areas to explore and new people to meet regularly. Live in the spaces, even if it is familiar to you. Look at your area as if you were a visitor and explore with new eyes. Take a new route to work, stop in to the local attraction whether big or small, walk around your town, village, city as if you just moved to the area. Do you see anything new, different, anything you never noticed before?

If you live mindfully in the spaces in between, I would to hear what you do to keep life exciting and new. If you would like to learn how to take the first stop to quiet your mind and live in the space in between I would love to guide you to that place of peace.

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Light and Love,
Sandy


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Ebbs and Flows

For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ebbs and Flows

Ebbs and Flows

We all have ebbs and flows in our life. It is being okay with both that gets us through the difficult times. When looking back on my life it seems it was during the ebbs that I grew and prepared myself for the flow. We all love flow but if that is all we had would we ever grow? At least, I don’t think we would. Wherever you are right now is where you need to be. It doesn’t mean you should remain there it just means you are fine. If it isn’t where you would like to be then what steps can you take to change the situation.

If you don’t like your job could you send out your resume and network to find a new one or could you take some classes to build your skill level? If you are in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be growing is there something you could do to build the relationship such as leave notes on the pillow, bring flowers, take walks or change it up a little to make it more interesting? If the relationship is poor and isn’t ever going to progress is it time to say goodbye? Are your children getting ready to leave the nest and you don’t know what life will be like without children? What about taking a class at the local community college or taking a jewelry, ceramic or dance class? I sold my house in upstate NY and relocated to southern California. Maybe its time to remember what life was like before children and start to think about who you can remake yourself once freed from the demands of parenting on a daily basis. What were your dreams before children?

So let’s take the quote and look at the paragraph above.

If you leave a job you gain a new position and new skill set. Maybe you leave behind coworkers that you have a relationship with but you gain new coworkers to develop new relationships with and can continue the relationship with those at the former position thus adding to your network. If you restart a romantic relationship with your partner you may leave behind the comfort of the old habits but you will gain a new fresh relationship. If you leave the relationship you will leave behind a comfort zone but open up a new world of adventure and possibly a healthier relationship in the future. If your children leave home you are losing their daily presence and your normal routine while gaining a little freedom to explore and learn more about the person you have become. You can redefine yourself. All change causes us to leave a comfort zone, even if that comfort zone wasn’t very healthy. It was known and you have to venture into the unknown. Just remember that where you are now was unknown at one time. When you first took your job you were unsure, when you first start a relationship you were unsure and when you first become a parent you were very unsure of what life will be like. So enjoy the ebbs and flows of your life.

If you need someone to support you through the ebbs or flows please reach out to me or someone you feel comfortable with. You don’t have to go it alone.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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What’s Motivating You?

Sometimes I wonder what motivates people. What does an early riser think about when they are waking in the morning? Is it habit that makes them wake a dawn, are they just programmed from childhood or are they born with this inner alarm clock? What causes people like myself to stay up until we can no longer hold our eyes open? Is it that we’re afraid we will miss something, are we afraid of our dreams, are we just wired to be up until our bodies give out?

Those are some of the questions that I wonder especially when I find myself awake at night knowing the alarm will ring and I will have to get up for work. Even when I say I’m going to bed earlier from now on or on those rare occasions when I think how wonderful it must be to be a morning person. One of those people who watches the sun rise. Oh to watch the sun rise. I have done this in the past, mainly when I was in BASIC training or at AIT for the Army National Guard. It wasn’t very pleasant getting up at 0-4:30 but once awake and out standing in formation for PT I felt alive and energized. Being energized in the evening isn’t quite the same. It’s more like when we are out in the sunshine of a brisk or even frigid day. It’s not that I love being out there but being energized by the cold temperature is so refreshing.

To become a morning person one must commit to being awake at the crack of dawn. It isn’t something I can say I want to do, would like to do or that I’m going to do. It is more of making a commitment to myself and then following through on the commitment. The thing is, I don’t think I am committed to this new lifestyle even though I say it is what I want. This makes me wonder what else in my life to I want to see occur that isn’t. That starts a whole stream of thought to include I want to eliminate sugar yet I find myself craving it at work. This isn’t the case everyday and wasn’t the case for several months. Once Christmas came around with the baked cookies, candy canes, cakes, and other treats I began to crave sugar again.

I wonder what it would take to commit to eliminating sugar from my diet and changing from an evening person to a morning person. Whether you are a morning person or an evening person you can accomplish quite a bit however I love to lay in bed when I wake. If I woke early in the morning would I just lay there until the same time I normally get up or would I have the willpower and determination to write those five pages every morning, eat a healthy breakfast, get in a walk, and still arrive to work on time. It seems like a lot to accomplish prior to work yet I know people who do this everyday.

This brings me to my own behavior and comfort zone. Is there really anything wrong with staying up till one if it doesn’t affect my work life, health, or anything else? What makes me want to become a morning person anyway? Why can’t I write my five pages every evening before bed? About the sugar – this I am making a commitment to eliminate from my diet because sugar is a poison to the body. I shall do a cleansing diet and return to my no sugar lifestyle because I have been able to follow through on this in the past for several months without any set backs until I allowed for the indulgence during the holidays. I have eleven months to develop the strength and determination to elongate that craving by December 2015. It is doable. Becoming a morning person, not so much.

Brainstorming my thoughts on paper and in my mind help me to discover what I am willing to commit to and what I am not. Asking the questions allows me to delve deeper into the reason why I can commit to one thing but not another. As I continue the process, one day I will reach my true goals and stop focusing on the things I am not willing to commit to and this will allow life to flow.

What do you want to change in your life but haven’t been able to for the long haul? Is it something you truly want to change and are committed to or is it something you think you should do but it really won’t change your life or effect your goals?

This year, 2015, I will focus on the goals that I truly want to reach and eliminate anything in my life that may hinder reaching those goals. The bed time isn’t affecting anything, the sugar has the potential to effect my health, teeth, and weight. Knowing this narrows it down and I know what I shall work on.

First thing I did was to rid the house of the sugary foods so there were no temptations. Second thing was to avoid places where the cookies and cakes would call out to me. Third was to only order lattes with almond milk, no whip. This way I get the treat of a latte without the additional syrups and sweetness. This was one of several ways I have discovered in the past that work. I like to add a little eye candy.

Soy Latte

Almond Latte

Looks and tastes delicious. When home I prepare coffee in the coffee press and sometimes add a touch of cinnamon. No sugar needed.

Coffee Press

Coffee Press

Herbal teas also allow me to treat myself without the need for sugar or honey. Having several varieties in a basket with some pretty cups provides choices and a little fun when sharing with friends and family.

Herbal Tea

Herbal Tea

To appeal to the eye I use my cast iron tea-pot with loose leaf tea and meditate a little while sipping slowly from the small tea cups. Of course dragonflies decorating both add to the delight.

Dragonfly tea kettle with matching cups

Dragonfly tea kettle with matching cups

I am on my way to eliminating sugar and as I sit here at 11:52 pm on a work night know that going to bed early is out of the question. One out of two isn’t bad and I am committed to the one so I will mark that as a win.

I would love to hear your thoughts about change and how you go about making the commitment to reach your goals. What works for you and what doesn’t? Also, how many set backs, if any, have you had while reaching your goals? Everyday is a learning experience and we are all on a path of change whether intentional or not so we may as well work toward what we want.

Light and Love,
Sandy


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Life Lessons Repeated

Life Lesson Quote

Life Lesson Quote

I don’t know about you but I have some life lessons that continue to surface in my life. It is like ground-hog day when going it through the situation. Many times the people are different and the location may be different however it is the same situation that I didn’t like the first, second or eighth time I went through it. This is why I continue to self-assess to discover what is the lesson that should be learned in any given repeat situation. The first thing is to recognize that it is repeating, the second thing is to look at your own part in making this happen, the third to take responsibility, and fourth do something about it. Not tomorrow, today.

Is there an area in your life that you seem to repeat? Relationships with the same personality style or with someone suffering from alcoholism, anger, selfishness, insecurities, neediness. All of these can happen to any of us. Or what about your relationship with debt. Do you find yourself charging too much? Maybe you have reduced your debt for a while and then find yourself back in debt within a short time. It can become a vicious cycle. Lessons can be learned in any situation if we are willing to accept responsibility to find someone to guide us through long-term change.

This is where I can come in to assist you. As a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach I will work with you through processes that will benefit you and your situation. Every situation is different and so life coaching cannot be a cookie cutter approach. It is always individualized. If you or someone you know could you some guidance feel free to contact me below. I will provide two free 45 minute sessions and then you can decide if you would like to continue. Let’s partner for the New Year to make 2015 the best year ever!!

Love and Light,

Sandy