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Kripalu Mindfulness Outdoor Experience Guide & Life Coach – Get Outside. Go Within.


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In response to The Daily Post’s weekly photo challenge: “Door.”

Loving this week’s challenge – doors. I love taking photos of doors. They are colorful, new, old, historical, come in many shapes and sizes, always interesting. I could not choose just one so decided to separate them by state. While traveling in California I had the privilege of traveling from Carmel south to San Diego on a few occasions.

The stores in Carmel were quaint and colorful. Every door led to an interesting adventure whether it opened to a novelty store or coffee shop. In Santa Barbara, we had the pleasure of visiting the I Madonnari Italian Street Painting Festival in 2012 and 2015. Although we enjoyed seeing the creative chalk art, we also enjoyed walking around the building and photographing the buildings and doors. My daughter and I also visited the San Diego Mission in 2014. One thing that I noticed was the architectural style was very different between the two locations.

On another vacation, we traveled to Salem Massachusetts to learn the history of the Salem Witch Trials and walked around the village enjoying the sights. I loved seeing the doors on the houses and the unique variety of door knockers. Rockport is a coastal town near Salem. We walked around the little seaport town on a rainy day. I love visiting the New England coastal towns whether it rains or not.

On the way back to New York we stopped by Cambridge, MA so I could visit Harvard. The pale blue door attracted our attention. After walking around the campus we went to visit the Harvard Bookstore and some other interesting stores. The storefronts were very interesting as you can see from the photo.

I didn’t want to leave out the ‘doors’ of New York State. This year we traveled to Kingston, the first Capitol of New York State. We visited on a Sunday morning and were surprised that most of the stores and restaurants were closed. Fortunately, two of my favorite places were open – a book store and coffee shop. The historic buildings were closed in the morning but opened at 1 pm. We left before they opened so we will return at a future date.

There are so many places to see locally that one doesn’t have to travel to far. On another trip, on our way to Haines Falls we drove past a Victorian house covered in vines. It was such an eye catcher that we turned around and were back to snap a few photos. The front porch was so inviting I wanted to sit with a book and cup of tea. I didn’t, but I would have loved to spend the day there.

On the way home we traveled through Coxsackie, NY. My great-great-great relatives owned a home in Coxsackie, one of the only homes still in existence from the 1600s built by Pieter Bronck. Although I knew there was a museum, I had never known exactly where and didn’t get around to researching its whereabouts. As we drove past I noticed the sign for the Bronck Musuem so we turned around and went back to check it out. The museum was closed but we were able to walk around the property and snap a few photos. I loved the stone buildings and look forward to returning for a visit.

Another door that I had to include was from a winter snowshoeing trip at Santorini Preserve. This is another historic location, survived from the 19th century. The stone buildings are a beautiful reminder of the craftsmanship of a time past. The thick red doors were very welcoming.

Speaking of welcoming, my little rental home is always saying ‘hello, come on over and take a rest on the swing or sit on the porch.’ The back door is just as welcoming as the front with two additional swings hanging in the tree waiting for guests to sit and lay back, listen to the birds, and watch the chipmunks and squirrels chase one another.

For the last photo, I decided to add one of the outhouse door from camp. Although this is no longer in use, it remains as a reminded of the decades of camping when inside bathrooms were not part of the hunting camps in the northern Adirondacks. This is not the original. The outhouse was moved every couple of years. A new hole would be dug, the house moved, and the waste of the old hole filled in. Not the most sanitary means of covering waste but it was a different time period. A time when camps in the Adirondacks were thrown together with some old wood, a makeshift wood stove and old cots. This camp was for men. It was a place to get away to hunt in the fall and fish in the summer. When women began to visit, some luxuries were added such as an inside bathroom with shower. The cots were replaced by beds with linens. Electricity, tables, refrigerators, sink, running water and carpets were added as well. Times have changed but hunting and fishing are still a main part of the experience.

Whether traveling far or near, there are many everyday items that can be missed in the rush. Many travelers don’t take the time to slow down and notice doors, door knobs, trees, windows, vines growing on the side of homes, brightly colored houses or roofs, and the craftsmanship of a time long gone. If you would like to bring mindful living into your everyday life, remember it doesn’t take a lot of time or effort. While taking a walk around your neighborhood, stop and notice the craftsmanship of the homes, building, churches, schools, businesses. There is so much to see and do within a short walk out your front door. Hope you have time to get outside this weekend and discover something new in your neighborhood.

Love and Light!


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In response to The Daily Post’s weekly photo challenge: “Muse.”

The first thing that came to mind for this week’s challenge – Muse –  were the shadow photos. Upon waking or walking into a room to witness light dancing across the window shades or sheers onto the walls and floors, stories begin to take shape in my mind. Wonderful stories of women living normal lives – similar to those of my mother and aunts – normal yet heroic. Raising children with little resources, caring for husbands, ironing shirts, hanging clothes on the line in frigid temperatures, caring for the sick and elderly at home, cooking meals that stretched for days, aging before their time. I am not sure why these play out in my mind but entire scenes flash before my eyes within seconds taking me to a time far away. I feel comforted and surrounded by love during these flashes and leave the space ready to conquer whatever is before me. When I see these shadows with light of varying sizes and shapes, I also feel creative and try my hand at pencil drawings and plan to try painting in the shadows with different colors in the near future.

Do you ever sit and enjoy the shadows and light playing across your windows, walls and floor? Check out this last photo:

The face in the window

The face in the window

Do you see it? The shadow of the leaves appear as a face to me – as if someone were peeking in the window to check on me. Maybe trying to tell me something – probably to write down those stories and to return to my love of drawing and painting. I didn’t really notice the shape of the face until after I snapped the photo and looked at it. Well, did you see it?

Shadows and light playing in my home are my muse. They cost nothing. You don’t have to travel. This can be enjoyed anytime of the day if you change the natural light for the shadows that play in the evening lamps or lit candles. I love those as well. Your financial situation does not play into this – light and shadows can be enjoyed no matter what your income or location. They can be enjoyed by all through mindful living – if you are willing to stop and take notice. Are you?

Love and Light!

 


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Snowy Day Decluttering Cont.

Update on my snowy day decluttering project. I would like to share that I have removed over 200 hundred books from my shelves after using Marie Kondo’s method of spreading the books on the floor and asking myself “Does this spark joy?” The result as you can see from the photo is a pile of books to donate and space on my shelves for other items that do spark joy.

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Don’t get me wrong, I still have hundred’s of books but was able to leave space on those still housing books and emptied one completely. Loving the space and will try this again in a couple of weeks to see if I can release more. The closets and drawers look great. Tomorrow will be the papers. Next week will be the kitchen cabinets again even though there isn’t very much to take out of those. The last decluttering removed all poor choices in food and they have not returned. Many dishes were released as well. By Spring this house will be home to only those items I truly love.

Another benefit of this process was by sharing my decluttering others were inspired to begin the process as well. That is what life is about, being inspired and inspiring others. Remember Law of Attraction – we attract what we think and feel. I feel abundant, giving, inspired, and free so I know the Universe is providing me with more of what I want in life. By releasing what no longer is needed in our life we can begin to attract what we do want as we move forward. Loving life!!

If you have an experience that you would like to share or if you would like a free 30 minute coaching session to help you get started leave me a comment below and I will be in touch.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Live a Proactive Life – Open To The World Around You!

The media warned of a snow storm. People panicked and I’m sure the shelves in the grocery stores were emptied in anticipation of what was to come. It is one thing to let people know that this is possible and to take necessary precautions but to make it out to be a pending tragedy – was it necessary to cause panic.

As a child we would be informed of the possibility of a storm, and did we have some powerful snow storms, but my mother never panicked because she was always prepared. Today with all the technology it seems they miss the mark more often than they did during my childhood. If you live in the northeast, or anywhere that can expect snow and ice storms in the winter, be proactive. Always have water on hand, extra food in the pantry/shelves, candles, matches and flashlights, if possible a second source of heat like a Kerosene heater or plenty of extra blankets, and some good books to read. If you have to travel, place a flashlight, blanket, candle and matches, flares, snow shovel, protein bars/nuts, potting soil and water in your car. If you can stay off the roads during the snow/ice storm – stay off the roads. Let the snow plows do their job. You can avoid a store for a day or two. Maybe you will learn something new about yourself when you are captive at home.

Some things to do at home when stranded in a snow storm. Meditate, dance, make a blanket fort in the living room, play cards, and/or put together a puzzle. If the power is off, light candles or turn on a flashlight and have a puppet show on the wall. There is an endless number of activities. Maybe even take a nice nap.

It is snowing today – a slow steady snow. It’s not too bad but we will probably accumulate a couple of inches, I hope. I’m looking forward to snowshoeing on the weekend if there is enough accumulation. While home, I decided to pull out my camera look for shapes, patterns and colors. I was happy that I purchased flowers the other day as a reminder that spring is around the corner. This is what I discovered while looking around the house, camera in hand.

Ice patterns on the porch window

Ice patterns on the porch window remind me of turkey prints

As you can see, in the photo above I focused on the ice formations, in the lower photo on the trees.

Trees and birdbath outside icy window

Trees and birdbath outside icy window

Living in an older home with original windows provides a daily art show in the winter months.

The crystal hanging in the window is greeting crystals forming on the window

Crystals forming on the window compete with the crystal.

Looking at the world around us with fresh eyes.

If we live a proactive life, we will not be caught off guard.

Be open to the world around you. Live life to its fullest in your everyday so you may continue to expand and grow. Turn off the television – listen to music you’re not familiar with. Touch the material on the ordinary items in your home as if for the first time. Walk across the floor barefoot to open your senses. Touch the material of the clothing you wear – place your nose into the material taking in the smell. Does wool smell different than cotton? Do you hold the soap close to take in the scent when bathing? What about the food you eat, do you take in the smell before placing it into your mouth? Do you try new recipes or spices? When you walk into your home do you stop to smell the air as it greets you at the door?

Open your senses to something new on a daily basis. You never know what will come your way as you open your senses to new thoughts, feelings, smells, tastes, and emotions. Dance from room to room in your home, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. Be silly at least once per day. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how wonderful you are!! Life is meant to be lived, it should be enjoyable. Take out your camera or cell phone and shoot some photos of the ordinary so you may see it with new eyes. Focus on what is working in your life because what we focus on we attract more of. We all have things in our life that aren’t pleasant but when we focus on what we don’t want we get more of it. So why not focus on what you do want and attract the life of your dreams. I would love to hear what you do when the weather restricts travel so please share.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Hidden World of Senses

When thinking of our senses most people think of five – sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste. There are many more senses than what was taught in school. What about equilibrium (keeping your balance), proprioception (know where your body parts are relative to other parts – close your eyes and touch your nose), hunger (body detects when you need to eat) and many more.

The reality is if you want to expand your senses you first have to be aware of them. This allows you to see your world in a new way on a daily bases. Start small and build until we are open to the world around us. Many times the chatter of our televisions, radios, sounds of our man made environment all of which result in noise pollution drowning out our natural awareness of our other senses. When eating most people eat on the go while in the car or grabbing fast food and quickly eating in front of the television. How many people sit down at a table and eat at a slower pace noticing the color, texture, smells and sounds of the eating experience. How many people stop to feel the temperature of the food as it touches their tongue? The experience is quite different when you slow down and eat in a mindful manner.

Think about when you have an itch on the bottom of your foot, you can reach down and scratch the exact spot on the foot without even looking. What about thermoception – your ability to sense hot and cold. Your brain is responsible for this sense as it monitors your inner temperature letting you know when to throw a blanket over your body, put socks on or remove a sweater. We unconsciously know what to do.

When listening to your environment we ignore many sounds due to the vibrations that we become familiar with in our surroundings. Sound is really only the body interpreting the vibrations in the world around us. Just think of people living near a railroad track, a busy highway, an airport, a busy city – they eventually ignore the loud sounds in their environment. I live near a train track. When the Amtrak train roars across the track my floor, doors, china cabinet shake for a few seconds as it speeds past. After living here for over a year I no longer notice, even when it travels late at night and the vibration passes through a quiet house. Yet, when someone visits me, the loud train rambling on the tracks makes them question how I can ignore it. I don’t ignore it because it no longer is on my radar. Just think about the sounds in your own environment, do others bring it to your attention? Stop and listen to your home with no other distractions except the sound of the refrigerator humming and possibly the furnace or air conditioner. What do you hear? Is there anything that you notice now that you have blocked out over time? Does this mean that we are not affected by the sounds, not necessarily. They could be affecting our unconscious and causing us to be a little anxious or tense without our awareness. Maybe this is what we really need to pay attention to. Just a thought.

I began to focus on the smaller things – the sound of the leaf as it drops to the ground,  the dripping of water as it hits the ground, the sound of the wind rustling the leaves which reminds me of the faint sound of chimes, the sound of snow or dried leaves crunching under foot. Recently I began to record the sounds to add into a meditation video. The sounds of our environments are individual. Birds chirping in upstate New York are not the same sounds as birds chirping in the Amazon. How would we know if people in other areas did not make these sounds available to us or if we didn’t visit other locations. Even though I focus on mindful living, I know I am limited by where I have visited and my surroundings. My body and mind are capable of so much more awareness. This is also true of the people I meet and learn from and this is why I reach out to people all over the world to broaden my own knowledge and perception of the world.

Edward O. Wilson speaks to this in the YouTube video below.

If you are like me after watching this video you will begin to wonder what else you are missing around you and want to pay attention to the world we share with plants, animals, and all of nature. Add some play into your life, remember how in inquisitive and interested as you were when a child.

Becoming one with nature

Becoming one with nature

What can you do today to open up your senses to become inquisitive to the expansive universe around you? Can you turn off the television and sit in the natural sounds of your environment for five minutes, fifteen, twenty? Walk barefoot to open up your senses in your feet? When you sit down for your meal sit at the table, take in the color, scent, texture/shape of your food. As you place the food on your fork/spoon listen for the sound of the different items – soft versus a piece of meat, hard item. As the food touches your mouth – feel it on your lip, tongue, roof of your mouth, teeth as you chew. As you swallow take a moment to appreciate the nutrition this food provides to your body. This can be one of many new ways of viewing your world. After trying it at dinner, why not try the same process when walking – touch a tree, feel the ground under your feet, listen to the sounds of the forest. What about when showering – feel the water flow over your body, the silkiness of the soap on your hair, the feel of the water rushing over your feet, the warmth of the water, the sounds of the water as it flows from the shower head. This is only a small part of what you can do to slow down, appreciate life and your senses to include those you weren’t even aware of.

I think to live life to its fullest and enjoy the journey through the natural ebbs and flows, we should learn to appreciate our intricacies of our bodies, our environment, and the natural world around us. Then we can live a life of full of appreciation, we can open our senses and become the actively, creative individuals were were meant to be.

Light and Love,

Sandy


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Finding Beauty Everywhere

Today, while walking in the park near my home just before sunset I thought about all the beauty in our world and how much goes unnoticed. No matter whether inside or out, whether in the city, suburbs or country we are surrounded by beauty. If we could learn to find the beauty in everything around us and focus on what this brings to our lives there would be less time to focus on what we don’t want in our lives. This is my goal for 2015 – only focus on what is working well and attract more of it. See the beauty in everything and that includes all of the people I come into contact with. Let me share some of the photos that I have taken over the last several months that I think are perfect examples of everyday beauty.

Shadows are everywhere, making patterns, allowing the viewer to open their perspective and wonder. How do the straight lines of the rail become zigzagged when light shines through? If we stop and question we can slow down and become conscious of our surroundings.

Designs in the shadows

Designs in the shadows

How many times when you wake in the morning do you take time to just lie and look around your room. I love waking to witness shadows on my window shade, sometimes dancing and other times stagnant. Dancing tree limbs occur a little more often in the summer and fall. Sometimes the patterns of the leaves form as faces, lace or many other designs. When the shade is open and I have lace sheers I will look for the patterns on my walls which look like artistic lace drawings.

Shadows on the shade.

Shadows on the shade.

When flying I am always surprised by the number of people who close their shades and ignore the view. This is such a shame because the clouds put on a beautiful display below and when the sky is clear the beauty of the earth below is amazing. I especially love when you can see the shadow of the plane on the ground below. One time while flying we were above the clouds and there was a beautiful display of lightning traveling across below us. Although a little frightening it was a breathtaking display.

Walking on the clouds

Walking on the clouds

I think a tree filled with magnolia blossoms is fascinating. The color, the texture and look at the pink lines rising up and fading into the white of the petal. When they first open if you are patient and view them daily you will see the magic of them opening for their short blooming period. I’m always sad to see them go at the end of the blooming season.

The pattern of the magnolia blossoms

The pattern of the magnolia blossoms

When near a swimming pool or any body of water watch for the patterns. The beauty of the sun shining on the water as it swirls results in wonderful designs and colors. I think this photo resembles an artists canvas.

Patterns in water

Patterns in water

Seeing the baby’s foot peeking out, especially this little foot that just left the sandy beach, also reminds me of a little piece of art. Look at the little tiny lines, the round little balls of the toes, the somewhat triangular shape of the foot. Is this not art? This little foot would be perfect as an art students model.

The lines on a baby's foot and their tiny toes

The lines on a baby’s foot and their tiny toes

When I viewed this photo after returning home from a hike the first thing I noticed was how the white resembles a painting more than an actual photo. I remembered how I loved watching the patterns flowing behind the duck as he paddled across the pond but hadn’t noticed the white waves until I stopped to look at the photo. This makes me want to get back out there to see what I hadn’t noticed while taking the photo.

Patterns in water behind the duck

Patterns in water behind the duck

The other day after I returned from the hike, I turned on the light to my new Scentsy Decanter then left the room. When I returned to the living room after showering darkness had settled in but there on the wall I noticed what appeared to be white hearts. It was such a beautiful sight in an otherwise dark room and brightened my own heart at the site.

Light Hearts reflected on the wall

Light Hearts reflected on the wall

As you can see there is beauty all around you, an artist canvas waiting to be explored. The next time you walk out your door, or when you wake tomorrow morning, please slow down to take in the beauty around you. If you have children point this out to them and ask them what they see. They might just surprise you.

Love and Light,

Sandy


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Enslaved by Stuff

Do Your Things Own You?

Do Your Things Own You?

When I saw this quote it reminded me why I no longer own my home. As a home owner of an older house I spent many days and nights painting, sanding, washing, tiling, and repairing. It became like a child, always needing attention. After I sold my home and relocated I felt free. Free to travel, to walk on the beach, to visit with friends, to explore. Not that I am saying no one should own a home, just saying in my circumstances the home owned me. I worked hard to pay the mortgage, taxes, repairs, fuel, electric, repairs, upkeep, raking, mowing, shoveling and on and on. Now take the original price mortgaged on the house, the interest, repairs, upkeep and so on. Over the life of ownership of the house which was six years on my last home I put in more than I sold the home for. All I asked was to be out from under. When you are looking at the actual value on the home don’t forget to add in all the hours you put in maintenance. Then I ask, do you own the house or does it own you?

What about the car? We purchase a car to take us to and from work, then we work to pay for the car to bring us back and forth. It seems insane but we continue. Into the cost of the car add fuel, oil, repairs, tires, regular upkeep, car washes, and possibly a garage to store it in. Today I paid $120 for two head lights. Owning a car is costly. Yes, we are in a never-ending money pit with a car and house. When you purchase a new car it loses value as you drive it off the lot. When you trade it in you never receive what you have paid out. Do we really know the true price of car ownership?

If you own more than one house or car, do you ever feel enslaved by them. We haven’t even added in things like lawn mowers, snow mobiles, boats, motorcycles or other expensive necessities and toys.  Then we move into the home and start accumulating things. There is the regular upkeep of vacuuming, dusting and washing. Then the repairs, purchases that you never maybe some of those kitchen appliances, exercise equipment. We have refrigerators, stoves, washer and dryers. All need repairs and have somewhat short life spans.

When I think of my rental home and the belongings it surprises me how quickly the house filled with stuff. At first I didn’t have a couch, table and chairs, dresser, washer or dryer. This was by choice because I left many belonging behind with my ex. My first purchase was a shelf for the kitchen. My neighbor came over and shared that her friend was relocating and had a dining table to give me. When we went to pick up the table she gave me five chairs and a china cabinet. I purchased two small grey chairs and a pink cloth swivel rocker for $100 only to find a Pottery Barn knock off white sleeper sofa and love seat for $350. Now the chairs sit on my front porch. There is room however I want to feel ready to leave at any time and this is not the case. I purchased another book shelf because I own over 100 books that needed a space to sit. This is what remained after donating over fifty when I relocated. Now as I look around, it can become over whelming. I loved the empty space when I first moved in and now it is beginning to feel crowded. Not like a hoarders type of overwhelming but a”I have too much stuff” type of feeling. Next summer I will have to unload once again and I am thinking about reducing the number of books even though I love them all. They are like my inanimate friends and when I see them memories of when they were purchased, what I learned and why I kept them fill me. There is no way I can sit and read them all twice so I will choose my favorites and release the others. There is always the local library.

Getting back to the quote you can see it is quite appropriate to our daily lives, at least here in the United States. Not sure what we can do about it but we never truly own something because there is always additional repair/replacement costs and manpower needed to maintain it. Watching people on the news Black Friday shopping caused me to grimace and wonder just how this all came about. People purchasing things they don’t need just because they are on sale. For those of us who do not indulge but have family and friends who do, it can be a painful experience.

As for me, I shall release and be free. I shall learn to say NO, I don’t need that. Thank you!! Living with exactly what I need and nothing else. One day I may just fit in one of those tiny houses or even be free enough to join the Peace Corps without concern over payments or ownership of wasteful stuff that has to be left in storage sheds. There will be very little to be stored. Some Christmas ornaments left to me by my deceased mother and aunts, a few toys that belonged to my children that keep for my grandchildren, some special items from my past, and half of my books. Whatever fits in my car, that is what I will hold on to.

I would love to hear your thoughts on being enslaved by your stuff. Do you feel enslaved by your stuff?

Love and Light,

Sandy


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Slow Down and Enjoy the Beauty in Nature

 

Finding beauty in nature lying in the glider in the backyard.

Finding beauty in nature lying in the glider in the backyard.

Although I don’t like carrying my cell, when I am out in nature I use it for those magic moments like the one above. Silencing the cell phone is a must because I don’t want to be pulled into some else’s drama while in my peaceful place. There is nothing so important that it must be addressed during that time period. Long ago I made a decision that no matter what is going on in life I will allow myself to become mindful and remain in the moment when outside.

We each have the ability to make our lives beautiful and worth living. Learning to slow down, take time for yourself, and stay in the moment is a step toward living mindfully. Take back control of your life and find art in nature. It is only by slowing down that you learn to truly enjoy this the world around you.

Can you take one small step today to create the life of your dreams? 

Love and Light,

Sandy


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Daily Mindful Habits for Changing Your Life

Today I was thinking about the post from yesterday and thought about those small changes we make that become life-long habits. Some other small steps that you can take toward the changes you want to see in your life is to start paying attention to your daily habits, quirks, and ticks. We all have them but most of the time we don’t even notice. They are a part of us. So how do we learn about ourselves if we don’t even notice them?

If you have a close friend – very close who you trust and won’t anger you by telling you the truth – ask them to tell you. My daughter is telling me – I can’t really get angry at her now can I. Especially because I have asked for her to tell me. Have this trustworthy person watch your actions when you are together and let you know if you are slurping soup, picking your teeth, making unusual sounds while watching television/reading/eating. You get the picture. It shouldn’t be your partner unless you are absolutely sure that it won’t cause some friction in your relationship. Be prepared to feel a little sting when you learn something new about yourself that may not be pleasant.

Why would anyone want to put themselves through this you ask. Well, it is one way to become aware and to take the necessary steps to pay attention to when you are behaving in such ways. Some you may not want to stop, others you may. Becoming aware is the first step toward change. You can’t change what you don’t know you are doing.

The one thing about change is it starts with small things. Those small things add to larger things. Think about it. If you would like to move up in your career yet you sit their slurping your soup, talking with your mouth full, burping at the table while dining with your supervisor, the president of the company, the marketing director or someone in a position to benefit your future then you would want to be aware of any behaviors that may be offensive. What if you are out with some friends and they bring along someone who may have the perfect position for you at their company or a possible date? We never know when opportunity will knock on our door. It is when we become aware of our behaviors while alone, at home, with family and friends that we learn to be more self-aware of what might be holding us back.

People who are comfortable sitting around their home in comfort clothes, snacking/eating in front of the television, lying on the couch scratching their belly, picking their nose, wearing stained clothing because what the heck you are in the privacy of your own home and no one will see you. Well chances are they will because you are developing habits. Those habits can carry to the world outside of your home. I am not saying there is anything wrong with being comfortable in your own home however once we become more comfortable lounging around we begin to make excuses for not walking, exercising, getting out with friends, joining groups, volunteering. Comfort becomes the habit which can carry over into the workplace. It becomes who you are. Employers don’t generally promote the comfy person, they promote the go getters. Those who are magnetic and energized. Those individuals with goals, plans of action, follow through.

If you are ready for change in your life, ready for the new relationship, new experiences, new career, financial security, improved health or any other changes you may want then it’s time to get up and be that change. Throw out the old stained comfort clothing. Get up from in front of that television and eat your meals at the table with real silverware, plates and glasses. Pay attention to your manners and be the person you want to be whether you are home alone, on a date, with friends or family, volunteering, or at work. If you work at home alone this is especially true. Get up in the morning and shower, eat breakfast, sit at a desk and plan out your day to be the most efficient that you can be — make that extra call, meet someone for lunch, get up and stretch throughout the day.

As you can see, change is not that difficult if you take one small step everyday. Choose something that you would like to work on in your life and write down some steps you can take today or by tomorrow. I have faith — this is your day. This is the first day of the rest of your life and know it’s never too late to start.

As you will see form the photo below, I have developed a habit of having my home ready for guests at any time of the day or night. This is a habit I developed very early in life and kept up even when my children were small. We felt like guests in our home whenever we returned home, it was a welcoming sight and still is when my adult children come to visit. I never have to run around to pick up and clean when company is coming. It is a great feeling and something that means a lot to me. Another habit I developed is to sit at the table to eat dinner. After my children left home I still needed to eat and I didn’t want to give up eating at the table. This was something my children and I did for dinner every night and a tradition I did not want to lose. When anyone comes for dinner or even coffee / tea, we sit at the table. Everyone has a nice time and we catch up on life events, sometimes add in a game of cards or board game. If you notice in the picture below, I also like to purchase flowers for my table. What can you do in your life to make some positive changes at home that will carry out into the world? The cleanliness and welcoming feeling of my house follows me to my office at work.

House as Home - always ready for guests.

House as Home – always ready for guests.

If this has been helpful, please let me know. I would love to assist you with moving forward in your life and can assist with setting goals for baby steps and follow through. If you would like to learn more about the services I can provide through my life coaching business please let me know.

Love and Light,

Sandy