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Learning to Overcome Obstacles- Preparing for 2021

Today I found an old notebook in my desk that I wrote down a thought in on January 9, 2012. The message was perfect for today as we all face a global pandemic and have more time for some inner reflection.

I was going through a lot of change in my life in 2012. Recently single again, living back in my home town, ready to shift location, career, and life purpose. It was a time of soul searching. During the year I began the Quantum Success Life Coach Academy, continued exploring writing in a on-line Creative Writing program at UCLA, traveled to Alaska with my sister, began meditating and walking daily, joined a meet-up group, spent time reading books, and journaling. Many messages were received and journaling was helpful.

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Here is the entry from January 9, 2012 at the beginning of my journey that year.

Think of a big old tree where a fence (or rock) was located near by when it began to grow. As it grew it touched the fence or rock (obstacle). Did it stop growing? Give up because there was an obstacle – something hindering its growth? No, it grew around the obstacle, sometimes growing over the top, sometimes encapsulating the obstacle within allowing it to be a part of who it was becoming – continuing on with its purpose. To become the strong adult tree, not deterred, it grew over and around the obstacle.

Think of a stream blocked by stones, sand bags, dams in an attempt to control the flow of water. Eventually the water will erode and overcome. If its purpose is to reach land it will move those obstacles out of its way or overcome by patiently and slowly moving forward.

This is the same for you, if you know your purpose and focus on reaching your goals. You too can overcome obstacles placed in front of you whether they be early childhood abuse, neglect, parents/family beliefs, something a teacher said, a bully, current or ex-spouse, employer . . . It is not about them, it is about you and your journey. They are all on their own journey. 

If you are in a relationship, job, family, situation that is blocking your growth isn’t it time to decide on a plan of action to push through those obstacles. Today, as we are faced with a worldwide pandemic we each are facing another obstacle together. Remember to be patient like the tree and water in the stream. Take care of your health, wear a mask, maintain your distance but stay connected. You can begin to make small changes right where you are now. You could read books about your goals, listen to podcasts, reach out to others on line who are successful in where you are heading. Share or teach what you are learning to others – some will listen and others may not want to hear or be with you. That is fine. When one door closes another will open. I have had to unfriend people on FaceBook – family members included as their path is not the one I am following at this time and many have stopped following me. Don’t take it personally we are all on our own path of self discovery. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them, maybe you just need a little break to maintain your own positive energy level.

Sometimes others are afraid of change and will not be open to learning and growing in the same way that you are. That is fine, we are all on our own path. Some people will be with you forever, others for a certain period of time, and some for a very short time. Some will be repelled by you and you may be repelled by others, possibly coming together again later in life after following your own paths and eventually returning to a new path together. In the meantime you will meet many along the path to guide you toward your goals.

During the global pandemic is a perfect time to release old patterns, change direction, learn and grow. Take time daily to review your goals, what is holding you back, and steps to take to move forward. When life throws obstacles your way it may be a sign that it is time to overcome and move forward. Don’t allow the obstacles to block you from reaching your goals, they may be exactly what is needed to allow you to overcome.

Here are some examples of people pursuing their goals during the pandemic:

My granddaughter was laid off from her job during the pandemic. She wasn’t going anywhere in the dead-end position and was feeling blocked. We discussed having her take the time to focus and think about what she really wanted once she was able to return to work. Did she really want to return to that position. When called back to work she decided to make a change and not return. Within two weeks of making the decision another opportunity arose closer to her life purpose in the field of creativity and art while uplifting others.

During this same time a former coaching client was feeling ready to move on to a new position and apartment closer to family. She wasn’t sure if this would happen during the shut down however she continued to search for a new position. We discussed her focusing on what it would feel like to have this new position and new apartment. She created a new Vision Board and continued to see herself loving her new position working with developmentally delayed adults and her new apartment. She was hired locally but didn’t know where she would live. Instead of worrying, she switched to knowing her new apartment was ready and waiting for her within walking distance of her new job and stores. Someone reached out to her and offered her an apartment within a five minute walk of her new job, she will be relocating the end of July. Anything is possible. This the same client that was having health issues as a result of working for 12 years in a position she hated. We worked together with her focusing on attending horticulture classes at the college of her choice. Within six months of meeting her she quit her job, enrolled in the horticulture program at the college of her choice and found an apartment within walking distance of the college and new job. Her health improved quickly after releasing the previous job. She is a true manifestor and sometimes needs a little reminder. 

Say to yourself, “I am willing to release the patterns in my life that are causing this condition. I am ready to take steps needed to release the need for uncomfortable conditions and relationships. I am willing to release the need to be critical of myself and others. I am willing to forgive myself and others. I am now willing to take the steps necessary to live on purpose, to fulfill my dreams, and overcome any obstacles. I am ready to be like a tree, overcoming obstacles as I learn and grow, continuing on my path to living on purpose. And So It Is!”

Take ACTION! Prepare your Vision Board, look at it daily, and feel what it is like to already be living this life. Script it out your life as if it is happening at this moment. Get out in nature and connect with Mother Earth, meditate/pray daily. Connect with others with the same mind-set / goals. Read books, listen to podcasts, send emails/letters, join meet-up groups, volunteer in the direction you are heading and be with people who uplift. Stop participating in things that do not uplift you and take deplete your energy. Be like a tree and plant your roots deep into your goals allowing them to guide you on how to overcome and continue to lead you on your path.

Start a little soul searching during this time of worldwide slowdown and discover your inner voice. Who do you want to be once the world returns into the mad rush of doing, consuming, destroying the planet? Were you happy with the fast pace prior to 2020 or do you wish a slower pace, a little less noise, a little less busy-ness, more thoughtfulness, less material possessions?

Don’t wait – start today! It is never too late to live on purpose.

Love and Light!

 


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WPC – Future

The past and the present might be open to interpretation, but are still constrained by the reality of what was and is. The future? It’s tremendously intangible, brimming with possibility.

This week, share an image that represents the potential of things to come.

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Finding my flock/tribe to fly with

At the beginning of every year I prepare a Vision Board. One or two on a paper boards and a couple (health, career, finance, adventure) on MindMovies. You can check out Natalie Ledwell’s MindMovies site by clicking on this link:

http://www.mindmovies.com

So many people in my community speak of retirement – can’t wait until they retire. Many are in the thirties and forties. This is sad because they have years ahead of them focusing on a day in the future that may never come, or if it does, they will miss the days and years of adventures in-between. Using a mindfulness approach to the future, I focus on this moment, this day, next month, six months, and a year with a long-term goal of what my accomplishments will be over a lifetime.

Below is a Vision Board created in 2013. It was after I left my husband and his house. I had a new career, new apartment, and was beginning anew. At the time I wanted to find a rental home and live in a place similar the memory of my deceased Aunt Betsy’s home which was filled with love items/memories and sunshine.

Vision Board from 2013

Vision Board from 2013

Within eight months I relocated to a rental home closer to work. The home filled quickly with loved items – not all of my liking but loved by someone in the past. This happens when you try to become a minimalist – friends and family think you are lacking and share items with you. Out of love of course. When my niece came to visit she walked around the house and said “You have created your Vision Board.” Not the exact items but the energy of the board. Amazingly many of the physical realities of this home were included in my MindMovie. The house, although mine is brick-red, it is exactly like the yellow house in my movie. With the front yard, trees, garage, and swing.

This year, my current Vision Board was no longer serving me or representing the direction I want my life to flow. It was an AHA moment. My view of the future has changed – not just a little but quite a bit over the last three years. The colors that have followed me for over a decade no longer suit me, neither do the clothing style or material possessions. While reviewing some of the magazine pictures that were cut in January, it surprised me that I no longer had any feeling toward the houses, clothing, colors – mainly reds and golds. It looked like a lot of clutter. I am now drawn to sky blue, turquoise, jade, mint green, white with pops of yellow and red, although the colors of autumn do still hold a special place in my heart. A minimalist lifestyle spent in nature whenever possible is where I find myself today and in the future.

Female friends are taking on a new role in my life – finding my tribe of women to fly with is a priority. I am not sure if this is a part of the whole aging process or not, I yearn for that connection and closeness to female friends similar to my youth. I remember sitting on my friend’s front porch talking about our future and how we would still be friends in our ‘old’ age. We lost touch over three decades ago. Creating the vision board has brought me to this place – not a place of sadness but a place of knowing. Knowing exactly what and where I am heading to a life filled with love, friendship, camaraderie, laughter, creativity, and nature.

 

It may be that as I journeyed into my fifties there was a shift as most people share however my view on life and what is important has completely shifted. It might be a return to the adult me I visualized myself being in my teens. Sometimes I find myself in turmoil between holding on to where I have been, my idea of what this stage of my life should look like, and the direction that my new self wants to venture. Material possession have less hold over me. When I think of the home I want to live in or the car I want to drive – the actual material objects disappear. What has replaced this is a feeling/energy of what I want a home, car and other possessions to provide. When with family, friends, co-workers, interacting with people in general I want to be able to remain at peace, filled with love and compassion. My home is my sanctuary, a peaceful place to return to reenergize.

Many of my past vision boards have come to fruition and this surprises some, not me. I know what we think about and place our energy on comes to fruition. We are manifestors of our realities. As we think about our futures, we should pay more attention to our words and actions. Even if we think we don’t have everything available to us now, paying attention to our feelings about this moment will change our reality of how we think about life. By researching, networking, stepping out of our comfort zone we expand our realities and gain a better understanding of how far we can reach. Regular meditation, life coaching sessions, energy healing, and self-assessing have changed my life and preparing a Vision Board provides visual direction.

If you are interested in participating in this week’s daily challenge or would like to submit your own photos please click on this link:

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/photo-challenges/future

We all posses this inner power to be who we are meant to be. If you are unsure how to shift and would like guidance, please contact me. I am a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, Therapeutic Touch practitioner, and facilitate meditations. If you need some guidance we can create a plan to guide you along your path to living a mindful life to reach your goals and dreams.

Love and Light!