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Living In-Between Past and Future

Living in-between our past and future is where we can find our peace and love of life. This moment is all we have. This post is in the past as soon as it is written down. This means I should focus in the here and now. Hold this writing in a place of love and gratitude so as I send this out to the world beautiful energy is shared with all those reading.

When writing my story, I could focus on the drama of the past or fear I had of the future but that is no longer my story. My story has been rewritten and I am forever grateful to live lovingly in-between.

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What story are you writing about your life?

Every moment of your life is a blank slate. You can release, redefine, and refocus the story of your life at any moment. Are you ready to release the drama and focus on what isn’t working? You can redefine your life by deciding to shift and find ways to enjoy every moment. You can refocus on the things in your life that bring joy. How you ask?

  • Decide today is the day: Say out loud, “I have decided today is the day to create a new future.”
    • Just acknowledging that you are ready prepares the way
    • Action is needed – it’s not just the saying but by deciding on what steps to take
    • Take a small step or action every day – change your morning habits, your food choices, add in a daily walk or stretching, smile more, laugh a little more, do one thing a day to help you enjoy life more
  • Stop and visualize what life you want to live
    • You know what you don’t want – we all know when we aren’t comfortable with our lives and what we don’t want any more of – switch to focus on what you do want more of and put all of your energy there
  • Create a vision board, creative future box, gratitude journal, idea journal, script of your life
    • Watch for my video of creating a vision board in a future post
    • Find a small box, decorate it and write Creative Future Box
      • place items in your box that give you joy and love
    • Pick up a journal that brings joy and write down everything you are grateful for every morning or evening, write down ideas that come to you during the day (without judging), write a script of how you want to feel about your life

Remember, life is not a destination it is a journey. Everyday is part of that journey.

One of the most important new habits you can start is to learn to appreciate wherever you are today. There is always something in your life to appreciate. If you are alive and breathing, you can have gratitude. A gift someone gave you that brings you joy – appreciation. Food on your table – appreciation. Running water and clean drinking water – appreciation. If you have your health, employment, transportation — all things to appreciate. Start small and allow your appreciation to grow.

A gift you can give to yourself is to wake every morning and before getting out of bed take a few minutes, ten if possible but there is no actual amount of time needed, and think or say out loud all the things you are appreciative of or give gratitude for. This has changed my outlook on life and the day that is to unfold before me. We can always be grateful for all of our blessings in-between. That is in-between where we were and where we are going. If you are not appreciating and giving gratitude for where you are at any given moment, then how will we ever appreciate today, tomorrow or next year. You will have to remain in-between no matter where you are, there is nothing else.

It was the times in my life when I had gratitude for my blessings – children, warm clothing, warm home, food, car, employment – that no matter how little we had I always felt love and joy. I remember once when I didn’t really like my position, or company I was working for, but enjoyed the staff that I was supervising, the location, and hours. Focusing on my children, nature, health, education, and simple pleasures like hugs, laughter, playing games, picnics allowed me to remain in a good place. There were times when I focused on what I disliked and those days were long and hard. When I received notice that I was being laid off – remember I was a single Mom of three – I thanked my employer. Without any knowledge of how we were going to survive I was truly grateful for being laid off. I knew in that moment a door had opened and we would be fine. Not sure where that knowledge came from but in my heart I knew. That door opened so that I could attend college full-time. Seven years of study at the Community College and when that door closed another opened so that I could complete my Associates degree the next year. Was it easy – no. Was it worth it – Yes!

When I share with you strategies, techniques, processes, ideas – take what appeals to you and give it a try. It can’t hurt. I’m not saying to quit your job, change relationships, relocate – unless that is what you need to do. What will work is to learn to appreciate where you are because you are always in-between. That is where life is lived. Not in the future or clinging to the past. Release the past – it no longer has any control over you. Be grateful for those loved ones who have died but don’t allow yourself to give up on your own life. Be grateful that you had the time with them and send them love. If someone from the past angered you or did something to hurt you, release them by forgiving them with love and kindness. Then love yourself by living in the here and now. Learn how to be grateful for every moment of life – sometimes we have a bad day or bad week. Truthfully, when you learn how to live in daily gratitude those bad days become bad moments that you can easily put behind you.

Everyday will not be filled with laughter however everyday can be filled with peace and love. The only person who can control your thoughts, actions, and emotions is you. You can become drama proof because drama will no longer have a place in your life once you live in the in-between with gratitude.

I hope you have decided to try some of the ideas that were shared. They have helped me and many others on our life journey, I know they can help you as well. Please let me know if you try them and what shifts you make in your own in-between journey.

Love and Light!


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WPC – Future

The past and the present might be open to interpretation, but are still constrained by the reality of what was and is. The future? It’s tremendously intangible, brimming with possibility.

This week, share an image that represents the potential of things to come.

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Finding my flock/tribe to fly with

At the beginning of every year I prepare a Vision Board. One or two on a paper boards and a couple (health, career, finance, adventure) on MindMovies. You can check out Natalie Ledwell’s MindMovies site by clicking on this link:

http://www.mindmovies.com

So many people in my community speak of retirement – can’t wait until they retire. Many are in the thirties and forties. This is sad because they have years ahead of them focusing on a day in the future that may never come, or if it does, they will miss the days and years of adventures in-between. Using a mindfulness approach to the future, I focus on this moment, this day, next month, six months, and a year with a long-term goal of what my accomplishments will be over a lifetime.

Below is a Vision Board created in 2013. It was after I left my husband and his house. I had a new career, new apartment, and was beginning anew. At the time I wanted to find a rental home and live in a place similar the memory of my deceased Aunt Betsy’s home which was filled with love items/memories and sunshine.

Vision Board from 2013

Vision Board from 2013

Within eight months I relocated to a rental home closer to work. The home filled quickly with loved items – not all of my liking but loved by someone in the past. This happens when you try to become a minimalist – friends and family think you are lacking and share items with you. Out of love of course. When my niece came to visit she walked around the house and said “You have created your Vision Board.” Not the exact items but the energy of the board. Amazingly many of the physical realities of this home were included in my MindMovie. The house, although mine is brick-red, it is exactly like the yellow house in my movie. With the front yard, trees, garage, and swing.

This year, my current Vision Board was no longer serving me or representing the direction I want my life to flow. It was an AHA moment. My view of the future has changed – not just a little but quite a bit over the last three years. The colors that have followed me for over a decade no longer suit me, neither do the clothing style or material possessions. While reviewing some of the magazine pictures that were cut in January, it surprised me that I no longer had any feeling toward the houses, clothing, colors – mainly reds and golds. It looked like a lot of clutter. I am now drawn to sky blue, turquoise, jade, mint green, white with pops of yellow and red, although the colors of autumn do still hold a special place in my heart. A minimalist lifestyle spent in nature whenever possible is where I find myself today and in the future.

Female friends are taking on a new role in my life – finding my tribe of women to fly with is a priority. I am not sure if this is a part of the whole aging process or not, I yearn for that connection and closeness to female friends similar to my youth. I remember sitting on my friend’s front porch talking about our future and how we would still be friends in our ‘old’ age. We lost touch over three decades ago. Creating the vision board has brought me to this place – not a place of sadness but a place of knowing. Knowing exactly what and where I am heading to a life filled with love, friendship, camaraderie, laughter, creativity, and nature.

 

It may be that as I journeyed into my fifties there was a shift as most people share however my view on life and what is important has completely shifted. It might be a return to the adult me I visualized myself being in my teens. Sometimes I find myself in turmoil between holding on to where I have been, my idea of what this stage of my life should look like, and the direction that my new self wants to venture. Material possession have less hold over me. When I think of the home I want to live in or the car I want to drive – the actual material objects disappear. What has replaced this is a feeling/energy of what I want a home, car and other possessions to provide. When with family, friends, co-workers, interacting with people in general I want to be able to remain at peace, filled with love and compassion. My home is my sanctuary, a peaceful place to return to reenergize.

Many of my past vision boards have come to fruition and this surprises some, not me. I know what we think about and place our energy on comes to fruition. We are manifestors of our realities. As we think about our futures, we should pay more attention to our words and actions. Even if we think we don’t have everything available to us now, paying attention to our feelings about this moment will change our reality of how we think about life. By researching, networking, stepping out of our comfort zone we expand our realities and gain a better understanding of how far we can reach. Regular meditation, life coaching sessions, energy healing, and self-assessing have changed my life and preparing a Vision Board provides visual direction.

If you are interested in participating in this week’s daily challenge or would like to submit your own photos please click on this link:

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/photo-challenges/future

We all posses this inner power to be who we are meant to be. If you are unsure how to shift and would like guidance, please contact me. I am a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, Therapeutic Touch practitioner, and facilitate meditations. If you need some guidance we can create a plan to guide you along your path to living a mindful life to reach your goals and dreams.

Love and Light!


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Living in a State of Gratitude

Today as you rise and start your day take a moment to look around and give thanks for all of your blessings. If you think, what blessings then you aren’t looking close enough.

Message of the day.

Did you open your eyes? Can you see? Did you have a bed to sleep in and were you warm during the night? Some people did not wake this morning, some did not have a bed to sleep in or warm place to rest. Do you have clothing to wear, warm water to bathe in, soap, breakfast, coffee? Those are things to be grateful for. Is there a supply of air to breath? Take two minutes to be grateful. Slowly breath in and out three times. Look around the room where you are sitting. Is there anything in that room which makes you feel gratitude? You might have to start slowly and that is fine.

Here are some examples:

  • I am grateful for the breath that I take.
  • I am grateful for the trees outside the window that provide shade and homes for the squirrels.
  • I am grateful for the light on the end stand that lights the way when it is dark.
  • I am grateful for the painting on the wall that lifts my spirits.
  • I am grateful for this cup of tea.

Think about everything you have in your life at this moment to be grateful for. Start small and then grow from there. Are you blessed with:

  • Health even if you have illness there are areas in your body that are working such as being able to walk, breath, use your hands/fingers
  • Friend(s) – you don’t have to have several because one close, trusting friend is a blessing
  • Family – even if they live far away can you be grateful for cell phones or FaceTime which allows you to remain in contact
  • Job or income source that allows you to eat and have a place to live, transportation . . . provides you interactions, creativity, new ideas
  • Dishes to eat from and possibly share meals with others
  • Books to read and learn, a library or book store to connect with others
  • Shoes to protect your feet from the elements
  • Blankets to keep you warm and a pillow to rest your head

We all have so small things to be grateful for everyday of our lives and it starts with waking in the morning, opening our eyes, and being able to breath. That is a gift!

Be the light and share that light with others. If you wake in the morning and have what is needed to survive the day you have been truly blessed. Is your heart beating, is your body digesting, can you see, or hear, or feel? Even if you need others to help you make it through the day, you can be thankful whether that be family, friends, community, government. If there is someone providing care and essentials then be extra grateful that you were blessed with this assistance and those who work to provide this for you whether it be rental assistance, food subsidy, heating or electricity assistance, subsidized health insurance. I remember when I received food stamps and heat assistance for a couple of month when I was laid off. For my children and I, it seemed we hit the lottery and we were grateful for the ability to purchase food and heat our home. One year my family was adopted at Christmas and the college students supplied presents for the children and a couple for me, plus food. It felt as if Santa was real that year. Now my sister and I purchase Christmas for a family every year and we feel grateful for the ability to share even though we will never see or know the families. If you are grateful for all of your blessings, one day you will find yourself on the giving side of what was given to you. Life is a beautiful thing!!

As you can see, we all have something to be grateful for everyday when we wake and each evening when we go to sleep. The more you focus on what you have and be grateful for whatever that is, the higher your energy will rise and the more you will attract to be grateful for.

Sending you love, light and abundance to carry your through your day and into your sleep.

Today I am grateful for my life and everything that I will be able to do during the day to guide people and for all those people who come into my life to guide me. This life is reciprocal and we get in return what we give. So give all that you can, even if it is a beautiful smile to a stranger passing by. That stranger will have something to be grateful for today as well.

What are you grateful for today? I would love to hear from you so we can be grateful for sharing with one another and sharing a high vibration.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Finding Your Still Point

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In flight yet the dragonfly appears to be still as the environment gives one the illusion of motion. We can live choosing thoughts that manifest the life we want to live or that of which we do not. If your life is spinning out of control you have lost your still point. It doesn’t matter if you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, like the Law of Gravity whether we believe or not it’s true. Finding the still point within releases the illusion, allows you to manifest your dreams, and sets you free.

When looking at the photo, I think of how people are constantly in motion without realizing that they are missing this inner peace. Many people are searching through drugs, alcohol, shopping, eating for that something they can’t seem to name. That something is inner peace – your still point.

To live in a state of motion while remaining still within, that is the secret to living on purpose.

  • What if, you were able to learn how to remain still no matter what is happening in the environment.
  • What if, you were able to release the meaningless motion and minutia from your life
    • Does your past story really matter today?
    • Does it matter to the person you are striving to become?
  • What if,  you were able to take a little time out of your day for meditation allowing yourself a gift of inner peace and quiet.

There is a peaceful still point within all of us. If you can find that spot, then like the dragonfly captured in the still point while in flight, you will be able to remain in a peaceful state while life happens.

Practicing stillness allows you to remain peaceful while in traffic jams, during meetings at work, during job interviews, while facing the death of loved ones, throughout the aging process, and eventually while actively dying. When visiting patients in what is called the ‘actively’ dying phase, we have found that bringing a stillness to their body brings them peace. Their anxiety softens the creases and strain on their faces. Their hands lie softly at their sides or in their laps and they sleep more soundly. Recently we have also discovered that Alzheimer patients are responding to Therapeutic Touch (TT) and meditation. Families, nurses and physicians are noticing personality changes in their Alzheimer patients and the patients, themselves, are asking for TT therapy. If meditation and TT can bring this peace to them, just  imagine what it can do for you.

Everyone and everything has a time limit. During the in-between lies a peaceful place within – your still point – which can only be found by slowing down, changing your mindset, releasing past worries, concerns, nostalgia, and finding your inner peace somewhere in-between here and there.

If you are ready to slow down, practice mediation and/or receive TT treatment please contact me for a free 30 minutes consultation. I would love to guide you to that special place within that only you can find with a little guidance. If interested please leave a message below or email me at:

spiritofdragonflies@gmail.com.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Love and Light!


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Finding Balance on Your Life Journey

Guiding you on the journey from darkness into the light

Guiding you on the journey from darkness into the light. We need both because the world is a balance – a give and take. Without one we do not seem to appreciate the other. Looking at what you do not want allows you to focus on what you do. As you begin to focus more on what you want, you begin to attract what you focus on into your life.

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Allowing the light to show you the way – see the contrast and focus on what you want in life.

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Finding the messages in nature. This reminded me of a heart and someone left the message to find balance and be open to the beauty in the world and spread love.

If you need some assistance in finding balance and reaching your goals I would love to guide you along on your journey. Feel free to contact me for a consultation.

Love and Light!


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Living A Magnificent, Loving Life

Happy Wednesday!!

Make it Happen

Make it Happen

What steps can you take today to reach your goals?

If we wake every morning grateful for another day of life with at least one goal in mind to move to the next level; follow through with deciding on one small step to take and follow through with taking that step(s); in a short period of time you your life circumstances will shift. This is true whether it is a financial, health, creating, developing new skills . . . Can you read an article; eliminate soda, chips, candy, fast food; can you put away a couple of dollars per day or even some change not counting it for several months; stretch, try planking, walk, dance in your living room; place your negative thoughts on a cloud and visualize them dissipate; wear a rubber band on your wrist and every time you have a negative thought that isn’t serving you switch wrists or snap it and become aware; what about meditating or taking time for some deep breaths . . .

Our life is a reflection of what we focus on and the thoughts and emotions that go along with what we are focusing on. Today, let’s take time to begin attracting the life of our dreams!!

I’m off to practice planking and making a healthy breakfast, packing a healthy lunch and water for work. What steps can you take today to reach your amazing life?

If you are interested in a free one hour coaching session to assist with changing your thoughts and having an amazing life,  fill out the form below or leave me a message and we will set up a day and time for your coaching session.

Love and Light!!

Certified LOA Coach from Quantum Success Coaching Academy

Certified LOA Coach from Quantum Success Coaching Academy


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Life IS Good – Happy Spring!

This mug says it all!! Windows open, sun shining in as I clean and declutter my office to prepare for inspiration coming forth this spring. Looking forward to the life coaching and therapeutic clients that will manifest in 2015. I am ready and willing to guide anyone who is interested in living a mindful life filled with joy and health. If you or anyone you know would be interested in learning more about my practice please contact me at spiritofdragonflies@gmail.com. Love and Light!!

Life is Good

Life is Good


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Be Grateful and Remain Focused on What You Want

Sometimes we get stuck in a rut and can’t think beyond the immediate situation whether that be lack of finances, dislike of our job, house repairs, anger at a spouse or significant other, our children’s poor behavior or a multitude of other daily events. Sometimes these thoughts take over our life and we can’t seem to move forward.

Now think of times in your life that you were so happy and content that you wanted the feeling to last forever. The birth of a new baby, wedding, engagement, while playing with children, a windfall of cash whether it be income tax return – inheritance – bonus, vacation, everything working the way you planned.

We need more of the feelings we receive from the latter when we are happy and content in life. We can have this everyday maybe at different levels but it is always there and available to us no matter what is occurring outside of us. Even if we are ill, know someone who is ill, have lost a loved one, or had any other life events that cause a trauma, sadness or leave us at a loss for what to do.

You may be saying this isn’t possible. How can you remain happy and content in life if you just found out you have cancer or a loved one has a terminal disease? Or you may wonder how anyone can be happy if they become unemployed, can’t pay the bills, foreclose on their house.

There are people who do remain in a place of contentment and find something to be grateful for no matter what the circumstance. You have heard the expression if one door closes another opens. Look at people you may know who have lost jobs they despised. Even though they despised the job and complained about it daily, the loss of that position made them face a closing door. What if they had been grateful to have a job, to receive a paycheck, to enjoy getting up and going to work with their coworkers. When they no longer had this position they became grateful for the job and angry that it was no longer available. Now they had to face the new world of job searching, maybe learning new skills, reevaluating what was important in a job and heading in a different direction. They may have decided to start their own business in a field they love. As they move forward in this new position they become grateful that they were laid off or fired because it put them on a trajectory to where they wanted to be. It may have been the push they needed to move them in the direction of their dreams.

For someone who is ill, maybe they were living a life filled with stress or displeasure, not properly caring for their body. This is not for all people who become ill but if you look around there are many that are ill as a result of their eating poor diets, smoking, consuming too much alcohol or drugs, taking too many prescription drugs, lack of exercise, constant stressing over what might be. Sometimes an illness can be the wake up call – your body letting you know what you are doing isn’t working. Many times after a stressful situation that continues in the person’s mind well over the time of the event they may become ill. There are people who once they find out they are ill change their diet and begin a healthier lifestyle. Maybe they quit smoking after a heart attack and begin to eat natural food, adding more fruits and vegetables into their meal. They begin walking daily or join a gym, participate in a 3 or 5K event. They realize they are grateful for the illness that change their lives.

My question is why not just be grateful everyday for what we do have. Today I am grateful that I have a job that provides a decent salary with benefits, a rental home that keeps me safe and warm, food to eat, a car to drive, an Apple computer and iPhone. I didn’t always have these luxuries. When my children were small we didn’t have a car so I walked them to the babysitter and then walked the mile to work. We didn’t have a telephone (a time before cell phones) or a television. We spent our time together dancing to records on the turntable (we didn’t have CDs then). The kids played outside with the neighborhood children and they all came to my house to play and have snacks. They built an airplane from the toy box and wood in the back of the apartment and we played hide-n-seek in our house. We didn’t have very much but I was grateful everyday that I had my children and a job to pay the bills always knowing that their was more. Knowing that we would have more one day. I didn’t sit and feel bad, I searched for ways out of the situation. This is when I decided to find a way to attend college. Taking one course at a time, in the evening, over an eight year period I finally received an Associates in Science degree. My position in the factory changed from dish machine operator to Customer Service Representative to Office Manager, handling shipping and production, and eventually over the nine years I accepted an outside sales representative position. There were times of stress, three-month unemployment, little food to feed the children but we survived and looking back I feel this was due to feeling gratitude everyday the day – not every moment of the day – but throughout the day. In the midst of financial difficulty we could still dance, play, and focus on a better life in the future. I was grateful I had a job, that we had a place to live, and lived in an area where neighbors helped neighbors. It wasn’t the best location but it was safe and there were plenty of children on our street. I never doubted that the situation was temporary.

The day I received my Bachelor Degree from a private college I thought this was it. I was grateful to have received my Associates Degree so the BA was a bonus and the result of meeting the right people who guided me along the way. When I walked the stage at SUNY Albany to receive my Master’s Degree, I once again stood in awe because I knew anything was possible. Being open to receiving and meeting people along the way opened doors for me. There were many people along my path that provided insight, direction guidance and love. Not all of the advice and direction was welcomed at the time presented but they all provided direction needed at the time and I am forever grateful.

Live in the space in between – a grateful space between where you are and where you want to be. That space where people and events occur that clear the path to your future. Learn to be grateful in that space. Last year I walked the stage at UCLA to receive my Creative Writing diploma and tears filled my eyes because when I was that young mother walking to the factory job I had dreamed of the day I would graduate from UCLA. Dreams come true and once one is fulfilled have another waiting or in process.

Never give up, always continue to move forward one step at a time. Your dream today can become your reality tomorrow if you can just be grateful for where you are today knowing you are steps away from where you want to be. Smile once in a while and be friendly to all. You never know when the person you are speaking with in a coffee shop or while standing in line at the grocery may be a person to open a door and take you one step closer to your goal or you may be that person for them.

If you are interested in learning more about taking steps to reach your goals, please fill out the contact form below for a free one hour coaching session. I would love to hear from you and guide you on your path.

Live large, be grateful, and love life!!

Love and Light,

Sandy


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Snowy Day Decluttering Cont.

Update on my snowy day decluttering project. I would like to share that I have removed over 200 hundred books from my shelves after using Marie Kondo’s method of spreading the books on the floor and asking myself “Does this spark joy?” The result as you can see from the photo is a pile of books to donate and space on my shelves for other items that do spark joy.

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Don’t get me wrong, I still have hundred’s of books but was able to leave space on those still housing books and emptied one completely. Loving the space and will try this again in a couple of weeks to see if I can release more. The closets and drawers look great. Tomorrow will be the papers. Next week will be the kitchen cabinets again even though there isn’t very much to take out of those. The last decluttering removed all poor choices in food and they have not returned. Many dishes were released as well. By Spring this house will be home to only those items I truly love.

Another benefit of this process was by sharing my decluttering others were inspired to begin the process as well. That is what life is about, being inspired and inspiring others. Remember Law of Attraction – we attract what we think and feel. I feel abundant, giving, inspired, and free so I know the Universe is providing me with more of what I want in life. By releasing what no longer is needed in our life we can begin to attract what we do want as we move forward. Loving life!!

If you have an experience that you would like to share or if you would like a free 30 minute coaching session to help you get started leave me a comment below and I will be in touch.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Adjusting Our Lens – Seeing With New Eyes

Happy Saturday morning!!

While reading this poem on a blog this morning, it hit home and reminded me of previously shot photos of ice on the windows obscuring the outside view.

SHADOWS IN LIFE
“Periodically a shadow may hover over our lives,
but don’t allow it to shut out or hide
the beauty beneath.”
~ Francine Gassette ~

As I read these words, this is what I visualized.

The photos were taken using various settings while focusing on the same view in front of me. The first was taken early, the other two one after the other. Even as I shot the photos, I was thinking when the shadows in life distort our view of the world if we slowly adjust our lens, eventually the shadows begin to fade and the beauty awaiting outside comes into focus. When standing back looking individually at the photos, all have their own beauty. It is just how we view and think about them that gives it meaning. The same occurs when looking at the world around us. Our thoughts are what we attract into the world around us. If we can step back and look at the whole of any situation there is always beauty within the shadows. Adjusting our thoughts can refocus the picture we see in front of us.

May you adjust your lens and refuse to see the beauty in your world today. Raise your vibration and attract more beauty into your life.

Love and Light!

Sandy