Hope you are enjoying your week! A little latte and writing material, all set for a nice break and some memories.
My daughter texted tonight to share with her sister and I that the baby was in bed sleeping at 6:30 and she had her bath all ready. It would be the first since giving birth seven months ago. Just prior to getting settled into the tub she went in to check on him. I would have told her not to go in because he was sleeping. You probably guessed – he woke up.
This reminded me of when my own children were little. A bath was a luxury and a rare occasion back then. On my birthday, the two older kids would watch their little sister while I was treated to alone time in the bathroom with a candle and bubble bath while listening to Enya. Sometimes this luxury would last for ten minutes, other times less than five before the arguing began. I do remember one time it seemed so quiet that I got out to check on them only to find them all cuddled up watching a movie. I dried off and went out to watch with them. The truth was spending time with them was a luxury. Between the three part-time jobs, college, study and feeding them the moments of sitting on the couch, a walk in nature, eating dinner at the table were the best moments. One we sometimes takes those moments for granted while in the midst of trying to survive.
This leads me back to my latte and journal. A bath was a dream, not a reality during those times of single motherhood. Many days I think how nice it would be to return to those missed baths and arguing children but life moves on and children do as well. They have their own lives, just as it should be. Now I have luxurious baths, times to meditate, write, travel, explore new hobbies, nature, and meet new friends. There are adjustment periods – not just one moment – there are many over time.
When the holidays come and you find out everyone has somewhere else to be. Or when you want to get everyone together in one place after not seeing them for a couple of months and there are texts back and forth to make plans, you wonder – doesn’t anyone use the phone any longer. Then there are those times, like the death of my mother’s anniversary, when you wish your own mother was still here so you could stop by for a cup of tea. That is when you miss your own children the most.
For me this is one of the reasons meditation, practicing mindfulness, learning and sharing energy healing has become such an integral part of my life. My mother’s lifestyle is gone to the grave with her. That generation lived a totally different lifestyle than we do today. I wouldn’t be happy sitting home caring for all of my grandchildren every day. We all know that. Seeing them once in a while and talking on FaceTime make the moments we share even more important. When using FaceTime with my grandson in California I pull out toys to show him, sing songs, dance, show him the front porch and all the toys that await his next visit. Sometimes I’ll swing while talking to him and sit near a tree. It keeps his attention, he is two now, and I enjoy entertaining him.
Life is different, society has changed and it will never return to where it once was. Not better or worse – just different. So when we are together I soak them in – cuddle, hug, laugh, and do silly things. If we are together more than a week, I can tell they begin to feel an urge to return home. It isn’t that we don’t love each other, we just live in a different time and space. When they leave I pick up a book, meditate, go for a walk in nature, or create something. It is time to redefine myself once again and truthfully I am loving life. We had a wonderful time together throughout all the ups and downs we loved, laughed and learned about life. I am proud of my children and truthfully, I am proud of myself for raising independent, interesting, loving adults.
So, now I sip my coffee and write in my journal about where I will be next year and what my hopes and goals are for the future.
- Live mindfully – in the moment
- Network and manifest new life coaching clients.
- receive my certificate for Therapeutic Touch (TT).
- Manifest TT clients
- Attend a TT retreat and meet develop skills
- Attend the QSCA Business retreat
- Success at the gym over the next six months with the guidance of the weekly sessions with a trainer and healthy eating.
- Another visit to San Diego to attend the Quantum Success Coaching Academy Business retreat.
- Create a new business plan
- Create a mindfulness program to share locally
- Create a few meditations and upload on YouTube
- Three visits with my daughter and her family
- Attend my son’s gallery openings
- Take monthly walks in nature with my youngest daughter and her baby
- Publish and article or even a book
- Declutter some more until I feel flow in my home
- Sell or donate items
- Volunteer at the hospital two days per week instead of one
- Take a ten mile hike
- Take a photography class
- Take a painting class
- Create more jewelry
- Write one hour per day
- Meet with the trainer once per week at the gym and exercise two times on my own
- Walk in nature three times per week – recording sounds of nature while in the woods
- Learn how to cook a new recipe
- Meet new friends
- Pay off my car
- Save $10,000
The list may look overwhelming however it energizes me to think of all the possibilities that can manifest in a month, six months, a year. Hey, one never knows what they are capable of until the take the first step. The first leads to the second and eventually you reach your goals. Remember I was that single mom, first child at 17, who spent ten years in the Army National Guard, raised three children, made minimum wage during most of their childhood, completed college and earned a Master’s Degree, now I earn more in an hour than what I earned in a day back then. I am grateful every day for all of the blessings that have been bestowed upon me in this life. Truthfully, I have no regrets. Life is a learning lesson and I have remained open to whatever lessons came along. There are plenty more ahead and I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.
If you are interested in setting goals and moving forward in your life, leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. We can discuss your goals and my skills to see if we are a match. Remember, it is your story so write your list and take that first step.
Love and Light!