For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
We all have ebbs and flows in our life. It is being okay with both that gets us through the difficult times. When looking back on my life it seems it was during the ebbs that I grew and prepared myself for the flow. We all love flow but if that is all we had would we ever grow? At least, I don’t think we would. Wherever you are right now is where you need to be. It doesn’t mean you should remain there it just means you are fine. If it isn’t where you would like to be then what steps can you take to change the situation.
If you don’t like your job could you send out your resume and network to find a new one or could you take some classes to build your skill level? If you are in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be growing is there something you could do to build the relationship such as leave notes on the pillow, bring flowers, take walks or change it up a little to make it more interesting? If the relationship is poor and isn’t ever going to progress is it time to say goodbye? Are your children getting ready to leave the nest and you don’t know what life will be like without children? What about taking a class at the local community college or taking a jewelry, ceramic or dance class? I sold my house in upstate NY and relocated to southern California. Maybe its time to remember what life was like before children and start to think about who you can remake yourself once freed from the demands of parenting on a daily basis. What were your dreams before children?
So let’s take the quote and look at the paragraph above.
If you leave a job you gain a new position and new skill set. Maybe you leave behind coworkers that you have a relationship with but you gain new coworkers to develop new relationships with and can continue the relationship with those at the former position thus adding to your network. If you restart a romantic relationship with your partner you may leave behind the comfort of the old habits but you will gain a new fresh relationship. If you leave the relationship you will leave behind a comfort zone but open up a new world of adventure and possibly a healthier relationship in the future. If your children leave home you are losing their daily presence and your normal routine while gaining a little freedom to explore and learn more about the person you have become. You can redefine yourself. All change causes us to leave a comfort zone, even if that comfort zone wasn’t very healthy. It was known and you have to venture into the unknown. Just remember that where you are now was unknown at one time. When you first took your job you were unsure, when you first start a relationship you were unsure and when you first become a parent you were very unsure of what life will be like. So enjoy the ebbs and flows of your life.
If you need someone to support you through the ebbs or flows please reach out to me or someone you feel comfortable with. You don’t have to go it alone.
Love and Light,