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Kripalu Mindfulness Outdoor Experience Guide & Life Coach – Get Outside. Go Within.


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Ebbs and Flows

For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ebbs and Flows

Ebbs and Flows

We all have ebbs and flows in our life. It is being okay with both that gets us through the difficult times. When looking back on my life it seems it was during the ebbs that I grew and prepared myself for the flow. We all love flow but if that is all we had would we ever grow? At least, I don’t think we would. Wherever you are right now is where you need to be. It doesn’t mean you should remain there it just means you are fine. If it isn’t where you would like to be then what steps can you take to change the situation.

If you don’t like your job could you send out your resume and network to find a new one or could you take some classes to build your skill level? If you are in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be growing is there something you could do to build the relationship such as leave notes on the pillow, bring flowers, take walks or change it up a little to make it more interesting? If the relationship is poor and isn’t ever going to progress is it time to say goodbye? Are your children getting ready to leave the nest and you don’t know what life will be like without children? What about taking a class at the local community college or taking a jewelry, ceramic or dance class? I sold my house in upstate NY and relocated to southern California. Maybe its time to remember what life was like before children and start to think about who you can remake yourself once freed from the demands of parenting on a daily basis. What were your dreams before children?

So let’s take the quote and look at the paragraph above.

If you leave a job you gain a new position and new skill set. Maybe you leave behind coworkers that you have a relationship with but you gain new coworkers to develop new relationships with and can continue the relationship with those at the former position thus adding to your network. If you restart a romantic relationship with your partner you may leave behind the comfort of the old habits but you will gain a new fresh relationship. If you leave the relationship you will leave behind a comfort zone but open up a new world of adventure and possibly a healthier relationship in the future. If your children leave home you are losing their daily presence and your normal routine while gaining a little freedom to explore and learn more about the person you have become. You can redefine yourself. All change causes us to leave a comfort zone, even if that comfort zone wasn’t very healthy. It was known and you have to venture into the unknown. Just remember that where you are now was unknown at one time. When you first took your job you were unsure, when you first start a relationship you were unsure and when you first become a parent you were very unsure of what life will be like. So enjoy the ebbs and flows of your life.

If you need someone to support you through the ebbs or flows please reach out to me or someone you feel comfortable with. You don’t have to go it alone.

Love and Light,
Sandy


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Letting Go of Fear

What is holding you back?

What is holding you back?

 

Fear is a controlling factor for many of us. Procrastination and blaming others makes it easier than taking responsibility for ourselves. I am sure you all know people who are stuck in this mindset. I spent years worrying, complaining, procrastinating, and blaming life circumstances on others when in reality it was my own fears and actions that held me back. Today I work a little each day on writing because that was a dream from my early years. Writing and drawing were my dream. Last week I entered my first magazine contest. Whether I win or not, I feel successful because I actually released a short story out to the public. This is so far from where I was a two years ago. I also enrolled in another UCLA writing class with the goal of ending the class with a complete story ready for publication. Today while sitting at the garage waiting for my car I am utilizing the time to research so I can use the time wisely and productively while enjoying myself. Your creative juices can flow in any situation, even if just in your mind because that is where everything starts anyway.

What can you do today that will bring you one step closer to your dreams? Share it with the Universe and watch it come to fruition.

Love and Light!!

Sandy


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Changing Weather – Changing Life

They say pictures speak louder than words so here are a couple that I would like to share.

Nature's Vibrant Red Beauty

Nature’s Vibrant Red Beauty

This is a picture of the tree in my yard as it was when I left on Thursday morning. I had to travel to the Adirondacks for training on Thursday and Friday.

Snow in the Adirondacks

Snow in the Adirondacks

This is the view while traveling south of Keene, NY in the Adirondacks on my way home Friday afternoon. The snow covered trees were breathtaking.

One day of wind and rain - covered the ground in red

One day of wind and rain – covered the ground in red

This is a picture of my yard this morning. A few leaves remain on the tree. Apparently while I was away over night there was a wind and rain storm. The view changed quite a bit between Thursday and Friday. The ground covered in red was quite breathtaking.

This is the same for our own lives. We are always in the midst of change whether it be aging bodies, changes in the weather, job loss, birth of children, children leaving home, marriage, divorce, hair and clothing style changes, manufacturers changing your favorite products, or ultimately death of a loved one. Change is a constant in our daily lives.

This makes me question our response to changes. We fight it, become anxious worrying about it, but mainly fear it.

Let’s learn to embrace change, even look forward to it. If we don’t like the weather today, don’t worry it will be different tomorrow. If we are having a beautiful day, don’t worry about the rain or snow in the forecast, just appreciate the beautiful day you are having right now. If your children are leaving home for college or moving to their own place, don’t sit and worry about the empty nest, enjoy every minute that you are together today. Sell the nest, remodel the bedroom into an office or workout room, or sell the nest and purchase a new home. When my youngest was leaving home, my older daughter was relocating to California, and my son to Missouri. I was faced with a decision to make about my own life. My children were my life up to that point. I saw them all often and was too young to sit in a home that no longer housed a family. My decision was to stay and mourn my loss or sell and move to California. It had been a dream of mine since I was a teen to travel cross-country to California. That is exactly what I did. If I said I wasn’t anxious, that leaving a good paying job with benefits and a home near family and friends wasn’t stressful I would be lying. It was very scary and yet exhilarating. I would travel cross-country with my youngest daughter then put her on a plane to Florida where she would attend college. I knew for me, changing the bedroom to an office or repainting would not relieve my sadness. It was time to take the challenge and make big decisions about my own future. Today, ten years later I am back in New York State near family and friends but never regretted my decision to take the big step and break free. Relocating and living in California taught me that being proactive in my own life allowed me to flow through changes and enjoy each day no matter what that day might bring. When I didn’t like my first job, I sent out resumes and found a better job. I didn’t know anyone so my coworkers became like family and I joined groups. As a result I  met some very wonderful people who are still my friends today.

Living in the moment, appreciating what we have with a hope of working toward something better or possibly receiving more of the same can take away the anxiety, worry, and fear. If you can let go of fear you can learn to love life to its fullest. Change happens, it is our reaction to that change that makes all the difference. Embrace it and see what you can manifest!

Love and Light,

Sandy